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Hello and welcome to inside out. This week, we have come to be Black | :00:07. | :00:12. | |
Country Living Museum, which celebrates the first and will stop | :00:12. | :00:16. | |
here, we are surrounded by life in the 1800. Tonight, will we have a | :00:16. | :00:21. | |
special programme focusing on a major issue of the 21st century. | :00:21. | :00:28. | |
Who cares for an ageing population? He is looking after mum and that? | :00:28. | :00:33. | |
Are the elderly safe in their own homes when the carers called? 23 of | :00:33. | :00:38. | |
the carers working there had criminal records for offences | :00:38. | :00:45. | |
including theft or assault. Also on show, who will care for you | :00:45. | :00:52. | |
when you're living longer? There is less money, so how will it add up? | :00:53. | :00:56. | |
There are cuts to public services and the politicians simply cannot | :00:56. | :01:01. | |
agree where to find the money. And in our final story, the painful | :01:01. | :01:06. | |
journey for the doctor who gave up work to look after her dad. A try | :01:06. | :01:10. | |
that bit. If you don't like it, you do not have to have it. If you have | :01:10. | :01:15. | |
it, you can have some cake. Are you going to have some? | :01:15. | :01:25. | |
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That's all coming up on tonight's Over the summer, the inside out | :01:35. | :01:38. | |
team has been working on an investigation about home care and | :01:38. | :01:43. | |
we have been shocked by what we have uncovered. More than 500 | :01:43. | :01:47. | |
allegations of abuse against home carers in the West Midlands over | :01:47. | :01:51. | |
the last year alone. We have also discovered that dozens of convicted | :01:51. | :01:55. | |
criminals have been working as carers. I followed one man's | :01:55. | :02:02. | |
journey to find out who was looking after his elderly mum. | :02:02. | :02:07. | |
Peter Taylor is about to discover the truth about his mother's debt. | :02:07. | :02:13. | |
I just want justice. For my mother and all the old people who have not | :02:13. | :02:17. | |
got someone to look after them. Dorothy Taylor died less than two | :02:17. | :02:21. | |
weeks after social services took charge of her care. But her son | :02:21. | :02:27. | |
blames himself. I was my mother's main carer. When we got the care | :02:27. | :02:34. | |
package set up by the council, I thought it would give clear break. | :02:34. | :02:38. | |
I didn't go over there, because I thought she was safe in care. I | :02:38. | :02:43. | |
blame myself for that. But the coroner's court revealed that care | :02:43. | :02:48. | |
workers could not have saved Dorothy Taylor's life, even if they | :02:48. | :02:52. | |
had done their job properly. But it is made clear she was left to fend | :02:52. | :02:58. | |
for herself for two days because carers simply didn't turn up. | :02:58. | :03:02. | |
are a lot of Dorothy Taylors out there who do not have families like | :03:02. | :03:08. | |
us. They just rely on the care people to the gaffer them. | :03:08. | :03:14. | |
Obviously, they're not being cared for. Now, Peter is determined to | :03:14. | :03:17. | |
find out why the care industry failed his mother. And whether he | :03:17. | :03:27. | |
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should have done more to protect I am on my way to meet Peter to see | :03:28. | :03:33. | |
if we can help and uncover the truth. You contacted social | :03:33. | :03:38. | |
services for some help with your mother. What did you need? | :03:38. | :03:42. | |
Some help looking after her. Somebody to go in and make sure she | :03:42. | :03:49. | |
is OK, make her a cup of tea, give her some food. Helper with the | :03:49. | :03:55. | |
toilet. Just to give me a break because I was doing it three or | :03:55. | :04:00. | |
four times a day. Home care for all disabled people is almost entirely | :04:00. | :04:05. | |
provided by the private sector and with growing demand, it is now a | :04:05. | :04:09. | |
multi-million-pound industry. There are around 1,400 home care | :04:09. | :04:12. | |
providers in the Midlands. 50 are used by Birmingham City Council, | :04:13. | :04:19. | |
which chose Care 4U to look after Peter's mother. How much did you | :04:19. | :04:24. | |
know about the care provider? the time, nothing. I had never | :04:24. | :04:30. | |
heard of them. I just assumed because the council were providing | :04:30. | :04:36. | |
that care, but that the council double checks. But had they? And | :04:36. | :04:41. | |
what do we know about Care 4U? It is run by this man, he is an | :04:41. | :04:46. | |
electrician by trade. Now, he is running the family business, which | :04:46. | :04:52. | |
looks after 70 it elderly people on behalf of social services. 8 | :04:52. | :04:55. | |
Freedom of Information reveals Birmingham City Council paid the | :04:55. | :05:01. | |
company more than �800,000 last year. So, is it any good? It turns | :05:01. | :05:05. | |
out the industry regulator did an inspection just six weeks after | :05:05. | :05:10. | |
Dorothy Taylor's death. The company failed to meet all seven basic | :05:10. | :05:17. | |
standards. Inspectors spotted something else. 22 care workers had | :05:17. | :05:21. | |
criminal records for offences including theft and assault. It | :05:21. | :05:24. | |
also appeared that other carers had not had their records check that | :05:24. | :05:29. | |
all. When the inspectors returned six months later, convicted | :05:29. | :05:33. | |
criminals were still working unsupervised in the homes of some | :05:33. | :05:37. | |
of the city's most vulnerable people. I should Peter what we | :05:37. | :05:42. | |
found. Many of the care workers working | :05:42. | :05:45. | |
there had criminal records for offences including theft and | :05:45. | :05:54. | |
assault. Theft and assault? Yes. Aren't they checked? It also | :05:54. | :05:59. | |
appeared that other carers had not have the records checks at all. | :05:59. | :06:05. | |
Unbelievable. And their judgment says quite clearly that the | :06:05. | :06:08. | |
registered provider was failing to safeguard people from abuse and | :06:08. | :06:17. | |
potential risks. And these are carers. We have also tracked down | :06:17. | :06:21. | |
someone who used to work for the company as a carer. Michelle Kelly | :06:21. | :06:28. | |
won a tribunal for her wrongful dismissal. In Peter's mother's case, | :06:28. | :06:33. | |
Keira did not turn up for days. Does that surprise you? Not from | :06:34. | :06:39. | |
this agency at all. Why? Because the concerns that I raised for | :06:39. | :06:46. | |
those kind of things. Staffs were Updating the pit to say they had | :06:46. | :06:48. | |
done certain things and that wasn't the case. Sometimes, they would not | :06:48. | :06:54. | |
even update that at all. You had no idea of what kind of care was | :06:54. | :06:57. | |
provided, whether or not someone had eaten and that was one | :06:57. | :07:02. | |
particular thing that I have raised that I never have response to. | :07:02. | :07:06. | |
And Michelle says staffs were not properly vetted, even after | :07:06. | :07:12. | |
allegations were made against them. There were specific complaints from | :07:12. | :07:14. | |
service users that had reported things and nothing had been done | :07:14. | :07:19. | |
with regards to that. Carers had not been removed from those | :07:19. | :07:25. | |
properties. Is it good enough? No, it is not. So what does Peter make | :07:25. | :07:30. | |
of what he has heard? I just feel more guilty now. I but I mother in | :07:31. | :07:37. | |
a dangerous situation.-I put my mother. The people there that cared | :07:37. | :07:42. | |
for her failed to meet the minimum requirements. So how come social | :07:42. | :07:46. | |
services continue to be a Care 4U to look after elderly people, and | :07:46. | :07:51. | |
is the company still putting people at risk? No one from Care 4U, | :07:51. | :07:54. | |
social services or the Care Quality Commission could take part in this | :07:55. | :08:00. | |
programme. Instead, they give us written statements. Care 4U blames | :08:00. | :08:05. | |
a previous member of staff for its problems. It says it has made | :08:05. | :08:10. | |
significant changes, hired new staff and learned valuable lessons. | :08:10. | :08:14. | |
Birmingham City Council and the Care Quality Commission told us | :08:14. | :08:18. | |
they launched a joint investigation following Dorothy Taylor's death | :08:18. | :08:22. | |
and carried out a series of inspections. In January, they found | :08:22. | :08:27. | |
the company still was not doing the required checks, but were satisfied | :08:27. | :08:36. | |
. They continue to monitor its progress. But his care for you an | :08:36. | :08:40. | |
isolated case? While it is difficult to say, because | :08:40. | :08:43. | |
surprisingly, up 40% of home care providers have not been inspected | :08:43. | :08:47. | |
by the current regulator. The Care Quality Commission plans to get | :08:47. | :08:53. | |
round to the Mall by next April. Even so, it has found a number of | :08:53. | :08:58. | |
companies across the Midlands failing to vet staff. Inspectors | :08:58. | :09:02. | |
found 13 companies were putting carers to work in people's homes | :09:02. | :09:07. | |
before carrying out their background checks. Andy eight for | :09:07. | :09:11. | |
not checking for previous convictions at all. All companies | :09:12. | :09:18. | |
continue to operate. So, should we really be worried? Are Freedom of | :09:18. | :09:21. | |
Information request also revealed that last year, there were more | :09:21. | :09:26. | |
than 500 allegations of abuse made against Homecare staff end of the | :09:26. | :09:32. | |
West Midlands. And here is a selection. Many described neglect, | :09:32. | :09:35. | |
thefts and errors handing out medication, some leading to | :09:35. | :09:39. | |
hospital admissions. Not all could be substantiated, but among those | :09:39. | :09:44. | |
that were, a carer who knocked a man down to the ground and then | :09:44. | :09:48. | |
tried to knock his bedroom door down. Another carer knocked a | :09:48. | :09:52. | |
vulnerable person out in the garden and another put a plastic bag over | :09:52. | :09:59. | |
a care and use a's head. This care worker in Birmingham, who had a | :09:59. | :10:03. | |
previous conviction for theft, was caught on camera trying to get into | :10:03. | :10:09. | |
a safe at the bottom of a wardrobe. It belongs to Trevor Thomas, who is | :10:09. | :10:16. | |
severely disabled. Michelle let us down and let her profession down as | :10:16. | :10:21. | |
well. I did give her a second chance and she manipulated us all. | :10:21. | :10:26. | |
It breaks your heart then when you actually see and know there are | :10:26. | :10:31. | |
things going on in your family's home that you're not happy with. | :10:31. | :10:36. | |
So how can we better protect people? The coroner who looked into | :10:36. | :10:40. | |
the death of Peter Taylor's mother believes there simply has to be | :10:40. | :10:44. | |
greater monitoring. I do not believe that there is any | :10:45. | :10:48. | |
organisation or Government department to actually go round | :10:48. | :10:53. | |
Birmingham at this moment and check that a carer who is supposed to be | :10:53. | :10:57. | |
going in to see Mrs Jones twice a day is actually doing it. I don't | :10:57. | :11:04. | |
think the Government could ever afford to pay for the type of so | :11:04. | :11:09. | |
provision that is necessary. But it could be done. Easily. By a | :11:09. | :11:13. | |
voluntary organisation, such as the independent monitoring board. | :11:13. | :11:19. | |
So, does the care industry except it needs to change? To find out, I | :11:19. | :11:23. | |
brought Peter Taylor to London to the offices of the organisation | :11:23. | :11:29. | |
that represents the home care industry. Hopefully, we will get | :11:29. | :11:36. | |
some answers today. Last year, hundreds of people in the Midlands | :11:36. | :11:39. | |
alleged that their carers had either abuse them more neglected | :11:39. | :11:42. | |
them. Can you honestly tell me that you think the system as it is is | :11:43. | :11:46. | |
working? Is you're telling me that there are | :11:46. | :11:54. | |
100 or more people... Hundreds. Hundreds. OK. Well, obviously, I | :11:54. | :11:57. | |
haven't seen the facts, but if you're telling me that is the case, | :11:57. | :12:01. | |
it seems there is a problem. Choosing a care provider is little | :12:01. | :12:07. | |
more than sticking a pin in a list. Absolutely not. It shouldn't be. | :12:07. | :12:11. | |
Hide you know you're going to get proper care, because it seems that | :12:11. | :12:14. | |
just going on the Care Quality Commission approved list is no | :12:14. | :12:17. | |
guarantee of professional care. think we should put this in the | :12:17. | :12:21. | |
context that most home care is very high quality and most people | :12:21. | :12:23. | |
receiving Homecare are satisfied with the care they receive, so why | :12:23. | :12:27. | |
would not want to go country to overboard and say everything is | :12:27. | :12:31. | |
rubbish. But obviously, we're worried about any instance where it | :12:31. | :12:36. | |
is not going right. We need a fundamental review of social care. | :12:36. | :12:41. | |
It has to be led by the Government. It has to be properly funded. There | :12:41. | :12:45. | |
are a lot of people in the sector working very hard trying to get it | :12:45. | :12:49. | |
right and there is still a lot of very good care. But there are also | :12:49. | :12:59. | |
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some shortcomings, which are Are you glad you now know the | :13:03. | :13:12. | |
truth? Oh, yes. Before, if it was an isolated case, no one noticed. | :13:12. | :13:21. | |
If you would like more information about caring for an elderly | :13:21. | :13:31. | |
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Her over next 20 years, the number of over 70s in the UK is expected | :13:36. | :13:39. | |
to jump to more than 10 million and all this at a time when councils | :13:39. | :13:43. | |
are having to face up to a big squeeze on their budgets. What can | :13:43. | :13:48. | |
be done when the sums don't appear to add up? The BBC's Home Editor | :13:48. | :13:58. | |
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By wonder what it is like to be 80. If I lived that long, who is going | :14:01. | :14:05. | |
to be there to care for me when I cannot manage? And he was going to | :14:05. | :14:12. | |
pay the bill? None of us can know how much it will cost and you can | :14:12. | :14:17. | |
spend almost everything before the state stepped in. I'm in York | :14:17. | :14:20. | |
because in the City, some of the elderly have clubbed together to | :14:20. | :14:26. | |
share the risk. Do it is a simple idea. Before you get too decrepit, | :14:26. | :14:32. | |
you can't apply to live out your days at this community, run by the | :14:32. | :14:35. | |
Joseph Rowntree Foundation, where residents know that if or when they | :14:35. | :14:40. | |
need nursing care, it is available on site at no extra charge. It's | :14:40. | :14:45. | |
not easy to get him though, you have to pass a medical, and one of | :14:45. | :14:51. | |
the Leasehold bungalows needs to be vacant. It pays to apply early. I'm | :14:51. | :14:57. | |
53 and you made the decision to come here at 61. It was quite easy | :14:57. | :15:02. | |
for us. We came here because my parents had died and suddenly, we | :15:02. | :15:06. | |
were the oldest people in our family. We came here and suddenly, | :15:06. | :15:13. | |
we were the youngest. There were people 40 years older than me. | :15:13. | :15:18. | |
place offers peace of mind to those who can afford it. Residents pay | :15:18. | :15:23. | |
into a communal pot, something like �170 a month for a 16 year-old, but | :15:23. | :15:26. | |
more if you join later. In return, they can be confident whatever | :15:26. | :15:29. | |
happens to them, they will not get clobbered with care fees they | :15:29. | :15:35. | |
cannot afford. You are paying for care insurance. You are paying the | :15:35. | :15:38. | |
same sum year on year which covers your care, however much you need. | :15:38. | :15:41. | |
When you're fit, you are paying over the odds. When you need the | :15:41. | :15:45. | |
care, you don't pay a penny more. All those worries that have but he | :15:45. | :15:50. | |
has about what happens, you've answered them. We know where our | :15:50. | :15:56. | |
care will take place. To me, that is great. We can get on with living | :15:56. | :16:06. | |
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It seems to me that this place is a local solution to what many people | :16:07. | :16:11. | |
argue should be a national state responsibility, paying for the care | :16:11. | :16:16. | |
of our elderly. But the plain fact is that at a time of cuts to public | :16:16. | :16:19. | |
services, the politician's right now cannot agree on whether we're | :16:19. | :16:24. | |
going to find the money. The issue just keeps getting kicked into the | :16:24. | :16:28. | |
long grass. The truth is that despite the recession, Britain is | :16:28. | :16:32. | |
still many times richer in real terms than it was when today's | :16:32. | :16:36. | |
pensioners were born. We can afford to look after them but in | :16:36. | :16:40. | |
Westminster, seasoned politicians would have that priorities lie | :16:40. | :16:44. | |
elsewhere. Is it just too ridiculous to imagine that the | :16:44. | :16:48. | |
answer to this is to put taxes up to me can pay to look after our old | :16:48. | :16:53. | |
be? It isn't ridiculous to suggest that we should use the tax system | :16:53. | :16:57. | |
progressively, to look after and care for people in old age. It's | :16:57. | :17:00. | |
ridiculous politically because nobody would touch with a bargepole. | :17:00. | :17:05. | |
A why not? Because people are scared of arguing about how and | :17:05. | :17:09. | |
spend. They are scared of the consequences at the moment, of the | :17:09. | :17:17. | |
economic impact in terms of further depression of our economy. So, with | :17:17. | :17:20. | |
taxpayers apparently unable or unwilling to pay for the increasing | :17:20. | :17:24. | |
care demands of the elderly, the search is on for ways to provide | :17:24. | :17:29. | |
health without the need for large amounts of public money. I've come | :17:29. | :17:33. | |
to Wickford in Essex to see one of the country's hundred or so home | :17:33. | :17:37. | |
shares in action, an idea all very popular on the Continent. | :17:37. | :17:43. | |
husband died in 2002. I've had run a tab of writers for 20 years. | :17:43. | :17:48. | |
Gradually, I found I was getting worse. -- I've had run a tab of | :17:48. | :17:58. | |
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writers for 20 years. The I By the 80 year-old I am a was | :18:06. | :18:12. | |
matched at 45 year-old Graham, an NHS worker. It will come to me. | :18:13. | :18:16. | |
Liberace. For the last two years, they have | :18:16. | :18:20. | |
lived alongside each other. The deal is that he lives rent-free in | :18:20. | :18:25. | |
return for spending around 10 hours a week helping out. You see the | :18:25. | :18:29. | |
advert and it says this is not going to be a flat share with | :18:29. | :18:34. | |
another NHS worker. This is going to be living with an older person. | :18:34. | :18:39. | |
Taking care of the chickens, doing shopping, mowing the lawn, a few | :18:39. | :18:43. | |
repairs and bits and bobs, a bit of company. It allowed you to stay in | :18:43. | :18:47. | |
your own home. Well, exactly. I desperately wanted to stay here. I | :18:47. | :18:54. | |
love my house. I intend to be carried out in my coffin. You don't | :18:54. | :18:57. | |
have free board and lodging in return for chores kind of | :18:57. | :19:06. | |
relationship. He'd become friends. It is so nice when you see | :19:06. | :19:10. | |
something that clearly works as well as that does. It's not for | :19:10. | :19:15. | |
everybody. Clearly, the older people need to have a spare room | :19:15. | :19:19. | |
and they cannot be too severely ill, and also the characters have to be | :19:19. | :19:23. | |
right to get that kind of special relationship. So, it is an answer | :19:24. | :19:30. | |
but it is not the answer. We need an imaginative, holistic and so | :19:30. | :19:33. | |
that immobilisers and supports families with Charon, gets the | :19:33. | :19:38. | |
community involved, gets younger and older people as part of the | :19:38. | :19:46. | |
solution. And over on the Isle of Wight, there is a unique social | :19:46. | :19:51. | |
experiment being piloted their aims to do just that. It is called care | :19:51. | :19:55. | |
for care, and the idea is simple, for every hour of voluntary care | :19:55. | :19:59. | |
that people put in for their elderly neighbours, they build up | :19:59. | :20:04. | |
an hour's worth of care credit that they can keep in a time Bank and | :20:04. | :20:11. | |
used for their own care later in life. One of the youngest of the | :20:11. | :20:15. | |
150 or so members have signed up for the scheme is 36 year-old Lewis, | :20:15. | :20:22. | |
who's been helping out 87 year-old Pole. I've been coming to see poll | :20:22. | :20:32. | |
for six months. -- Pearl. But I have many as bank and I hope I can | :20:32. | :20:35. | |
use it when I need it. It can encourage you so much to actually | :20:35. | :20:41. | |
get out there and do something. thing is, my fingers, the top joint | :20:41. | :20:46. | |
doesn't go over so therefore, I cannot pick up things properly. I | :20:46. | :20:51. | |
spend quite a lot of time talking to him and he talks to me but that | :20:51. | :20:58. | |
is a big help to me because of people don't come. This company is | :20:58. | :21:03. | |
the brainchild of this professor, who hopes it will pay it -- play a | :21:03. | :21:07. | |
key part in solving the care crisis. I hope over the next three years or | :21:07. | :21:13. | |
so, we will build it into quite a large national scheme. I hope there | :21:13. | :21:19. | |
might be 1 million members. The problem is, the next generation is | :21:19. | :21:24. | |
sufficiently keen to ensure safety in their own age to infest the | :21:24. | :21:31. | |
hours which will buy from their care pension. In Westminster, the | :21:31. | :21:35. | |
talk is all about cuts and its turreted, not spending billions | :21:35. | :21:40. | |
more caring for our elderly. So the responsibility falls on wider | :21:40. | :21:44. | |
society, on communities and neighbourhoods, on families, to | :21:44. | :21:50. | |
fill that gap and help all of us feel more confident about the | :21:50. | :22:00. | |
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The while politicians wrestle with the future of social care, families | :22:02. | :22:05. | |
across the West Midlands are more concerned with the here and now. | :22:06. | :22:10. | |
Ford has the -- for Debbie Osborne, that has meant giving up her job to | :22:10. | :22:13. | |
care for her father who has to mention. It's been a really | :22:13. | :22:19. | |
difficult journey. -- who has dementia. | :22:19. | :22:22. | |
It is 8am and Roger Mumford is being dressed by his daughter, | :22:22. | :22:29. | |
Debbie. Shall we clean our teeth? We've met before, in Worcestershire. | :22:29. | :22:33. | |
Roger was diagnosed with dementia three years ago. His condition is | :22:33. | :22:39. | |
deteriorating rapidly. He is quite agitated this morning. He's got up | :22:39. | :22:48. | |
and he is quite cross. A sometimes you can wash him from top to bottom | :22:48. | :22:52. | |
and other days you cannot. The days are hard and long. With forgers | :22:52. | :22:55. | |
care becoming more demanding, Debbie decided to give up work to | :22:55. | :23:02. | |
help her mother, Carol, look after him. It is difficult to have to do | :23:02. | :23:09. | |
this every day. Up at 6:30am every day and the day starts. 47 years | :23:09. | :23:19. | |
we've been married. We've been together 50 years. It hasn't been | :23:19. | :23:24. | |
too bad, has it? A low, not too bad. Despite the 40 years of marriage, | :23:24. | :23:31. | |
Carol is a stranger to Roger. is my name? Your name? I don't know | :23:31. | :23:41. | |
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what that is. You don't? It makes A wodges dementia has become so bad | :23:54. | :23:59. | |
that he no longer recognises any of his family. -- Roger. Debbie still | :23:59. | :24:03. | |
has fond memories of the father she once knew. He was great fun and a | :24:03. | :24:07. | |
great dad when we were growing up. We were very close. He was very | :24:07. | :24:12. | |
athletic, very sociable. He was very busy building the house. He | :24:12. | :24:22. | |
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was a very active man. Well, there you go then. That was you. It is | :24:24. | :24:27. | |
mid-morning and Roger is pacing. He's making it hard for Debbie and | :24:27. | :24:31. | |
Carol to do the simplest of tasks. By lunchtime, the house can turn | :24:31. | :24:41. | |
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into a battleground. Shall we have dinner now? You haven't had any yet. | :24:43. | :24:49. | |
Try one mouthful. Come over here. See whether you like it. I will | :24:49. | :24:55. | |
give you a bit. The that's up to you. Some days, he will not have | :24:55. | :24:58. | |
his lunch and he takes a lot of persuasion. Sometimes, it can get | :24:58. | :25:03. | |
thrown at us, depending on how he is feeling. Sometimes he says it is | :25:03. | :25:08. | |
disgusting and sometimes he says he will only eat some of it. If you | :25:08. | :25:16. | |
don't like it, you don't have to have it. Wigan have some? -- are | :25:16. | :25:23. | |
you going to have some? If we were to sit down with him, he would go | :25:23. | :25:27. | |
mad. We are not allowed to me to dinner with him. When we sit down | :25:27. | :25:31. | |
at night, he can take our food away from us. Even if we ignore him, he | :25:32. | :25:39. | |
will really -- he will talk closely in our faces and say he hates this. | :25:39. | :25:46. | |
Eating is a real issue. Today was a good day. Roger has done well. An | :25:46. | :25:51. | |
empty plate is a welcome change. That's it, all gone. You've eaten | :25:51. | :25:58. | |
all of it. Very good. I'll take that out and we can have cake after. | :25:58. | :26:02. | |
It is a long afternoon looking after Roger and he needs constant | :26:02. | :26:08. | |
supervision. It's incredible how they can keep going hour after hour, | :26:08. | :26:18. | |
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and not stopping at all. A see you later. My mum and I both hold our | :26:18. | :26:22. | |
hands up and we say BK is getting beyond what we are trained to do. | :26:22. | :26:30. | |
I'm not a trained nurse. We do our best. Dad would be happy cared-for | :26:30. | :26:39. | |
but anybody, as long as his needs are met. That one. A push. There | :26:39. | :26:44. | |
you go. Debbie has always said he would never send her dad to a care | :26:44. | :26:50. | |
home but now, every day is more of a struggle. For all the well in the | :26:50. | :26:53. | |
world, that's not my dad. He looks like my dad but the manner that was | :26:54. | :27:00. | |
my dad isn't there.'s -- a demand that was my dad isn't there. | :27:00. | :27:10. | |
Everyone is exhausted before bed. At I cannot cope and I don't want a | :27:10. | :27:14. | |
baby to spend all her life doing it. She has got her daughter and her | :27:14. | :27:21. | |
life to lead. After three years of taking care of Roger, the family | :27:21. | :27:25. | |
have made a decision and they are looking for a home to look after | :27:25. | :27:29. | |
him full-time. By Christmas, we hopefully will have looked at | :27:29. | :27:35. | |
several homes and found somewhere that think suits dad and us, and | :27:35. | :27:40. | |
that we can see him have thing as his home for the rest of his life. | :27:40. | :27:47. | |
It's his last home. We will be happy with it as well. A we've made | :27:47. | :27:53. | |
a decision together that's right. Nothing will ever bring dad back. | :27:53. | :27:57. | |
We miss him every day. We would love to sit down and have a | :27:57. | :28:00. | |
conversation with them, just to see him for 10 minutes, but it's not | :28:00. | :28:10. | |
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going to happen. Goodnight. Thank you. | :28:10. | :28:13. | |
There is more information about caring for the elderly on our | :28:13. | :28:20. | |
website. Finance it for tonight but if you've got a story you would | :28:20. | :28:30. | |
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like to tell us about, drop me an On Inside Out next week: other | :28:31. | :28:35. | |
victims paying thousands for the UK these is that never arrived. | :28:35. | :28:41. | |
cannot explain how devastating this was. I wanted to crawl under my | :28:41. | :28:47. |