Being a Bully Lifebabble

Hey, Lifebabblers.

Today we're talking about what makes someone become a bully.

Everyone can have a bad day,

but what can make us go from grumpy to bully?

There's so many reasons as to why someone bullies.

Sometimes it can be because they themselves

have been bullied in the past.

Bullying someone else can help them

take their mind of their own problems.

Sometimes bullies are dealing with something difficult

in their own lives and they don't know how to cope or talk about it.

Having more power over someone else can help them feel like

they've got more control in their life.

Some bullies don't even realise what they're doing is upsetting.

People can bully you because they want to fit in with the group.

It can be really hard to stand up to friends.

They might even be worried that

if they don't join in they'll get bullied too.

'Bullying is...'

Hello and welcome to another episode of Bully Or Banter?

Today's contestants are Mark A,

and joining him today is Mark B.

You overhear your friend's mum say to him,

"Have a good day at school, my little cheesecake."

What do you do?

She calls him cheesecake? Tell everyone!

BUZZ! Wrong answer.

What about you, Mark A?

A good friend would keep it private.

DING! Right!

Your friends are teasing one of the group about something,

but it's clear that they don't like it.

What do you do?

-Join in with the teasing.

-BUZZ!

-Mark A?

-Tell the group that you think they should stop.

DING! Excellent. Full points again.

You find a video of your friends playing with their favourite toys.

And we can see a clip of that.

That's not fair! That's so embarrassing!

Tell your friend you found it and don't show it to anyone.

DING! Right!

Your friends have invited everyone to a party

except one person in the group.

What do you do?

Reach out to them.

No-one likes to be excluded.

DING! Both Marks have two points.

If you think you've been

bullying someone, stop.

Make a positive change and decide not to do it any more.

Say you're sorry.

It takes a lot of courage to admit when you've done something wrong.

Think about why you behaved like that.

Is there something going on in your life

which is upsetting you or making you feel angry?

We all make mistakes, but bullying is a mistake

that can have serious consequences

for you and the person you're bullying.

If you realise that you've been a bully,

talk to a friend or a trusted adult

and get some help with the situation.

It's really important to make a change,

and you don't have to do it on your own.

PHONE RINGS

'I started bullying in secondary school.

'My whole life was traumatic

'and I thought that if I bullied other kids,

'someone might notice I needed help.

'I picked on kids for everything and anything.

'The kid could have his tie too tight and that would be enough.

'I knew it was wrong and it made me feel really bad,

'but I didn't know what to do.

'I also knew if I didn't change,

'I was going to affect my future,

'so I stopped and haven't bullied since.

'Now I'm older, I'm training to be a gym instructor

'and I've learnt from my mistakes.'

Worried you may have bullied someone but not sure?

It's time for positive action.

Step one.

Why not ask them and listen to what they have to say?

Be honest, but remember

they might find it difficult to tell you the truth.

Step two. Think about what happened.

Write down all the things you said and did

and try to put yourself in somebody else's shoes.

If the situation was the other way around, how would you feel?

Step three. Be a part of the solution.

If you can recognise your own bullying,

you may be able to stop it from happening to someone else.

That's all for this Lifebabble.

For more info on bullying, head to the CBBC website.

Whatever is on your mind, remember to keep babbling.

See you next time.