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Lots of adults like a drink, | 0:00:05 | 0:00:07 | |
and it's absolutely fine for most of them. | 0:00:07 | 0:00:09 | |
But too much alcohol too often can cause big problems. | 0:00:09 | 0:00:13 | |
Alcohol. | 0:00:16 | 0:00:18 | |
You'll have probably watched adults drinking it at parties. | 0:00:18 | 0:00:20 | |
You'll have seen it on the shelves in supermarkets, | 0:00:20 | 0:00:23 | |
and it's probably in your home. | 0:00:23 | 0:00:25 | |
From the pages of celebrity magazines, to our streets, | 0:00:25 | 0:00:28 | |
and even your gardens. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:30 | |
It's hard not to notice the adults around you drinking alcohol. | 0:00:30 | 0:00:34 | |
All right, girls? | 0:00:34 | 0:00:36 | |
When people talk about alcohol, it's usually | 0:00:45 | 0:00:48 | |
from an adult's point of view. But it can affect you too. | 0:00:48 | 0:00:51 | |
Every day, millions of children in the UK have to deal | 0:00:51 | 0:00:54 | |
with adults around them drinking alcohol. | 0:00:54 | 0:00:57 | |
Adults drink the same way like we eat cake, just to calm down and relax. | 0:00:57 | 0:01:02 | |
One minute they're fine, the next you see them falling everywhere | 0:01:02 | 0:01:06 | |
and talking funny | 0:01:06 | 0:01:09 | |
and saying silly things. | 0:01:09 | 0:01:12 | |
My next door neighbour drinks | 0:01:12 | 0:01:14 | |
and she drinks every night because her son's always causing her stress. | 0:01:14 | 0:01:19 | |
Sometimes they get aggressive and do things that they should not do. | 0:01:19 | 0:01:23 | |
People drink alcohol, get drunk, and sometimes get injured. | 0:01:23 | 0:01:28 | |
People drink and drive and get caught or arrested. | 0:01:28 | 0:01:32 | |
I think adults drink | 0:01:32 | 0:01:34 | |
because they want to get stress off their mind or they want to have fun. | 0:01:34 | 0:01:38 | |
Alcohol's more affordable than it used to be and adults are spending | 0:01:42 | 0:01:45 | |
more of their cash on drink. | 0:01:45 | 0:01:47 | |
Most of it's bought in the shops and drunk at home. | 0:01:47 | 0:01:49 | |
My parents always have a bottle of wine in the fridge. | 0:01:49 | 0:01:52 | |
Guys! Please, be careful. | 0:01:53 | 0:01:55 | |
Drinking alcohol isn't a problem for most adults, | 0:01:55 | 0:01:58 | |
but some can get addicted to it and find it really hard to stop, | 0:01:58 | 0:02:02 | |
and that can have lifelong consequences | 0:02:02 | 0:02:04 | |
for the children around them. | 0:02:04 | 0:02:05 | |
It can affect how you do at school, it can rip families apart, | 0:02:05 | 0:02:08 | |
and sometimes drinking too much can even lead to someone dying, | 0:02:08 | 0:02:12 | |
as Liam knows. | 0:02:12 | 0:02:13 | |
My dad was a really nice guy, | 0:02:18 | 0:02:21 | |
you couldn't go wrong with him. | 0:02:21 | 0:02:23 | |
Everyone loved him, people at work, everybody did. | 0:02:23 | 0:02:26 | |
I just can't stress enough how much of a nice guy he was. | 0:02:26 | 0:02:29 | |
I think he started drinking when my mum and him split up, | 0:02:31 | 0:02:34 | |
when I was about five. I started noticing the alcohol around | 0:02:34 | 0:02:38 | |
and him changing, his personality changing. | 0:02:38 | 0:02:40 | |
He was short-tempered, got angry quickly. | 0:02:40 | 0:02:44 | |
The one incident I can vividly remember is I was pouring a drink | 0:02:44 | 0:02:48 | |
and I spilt it over a plug accidentally. | 0:02:48 | 0:02:51 | |
He got really angry. I think he swung for me, tried to hit me, and I ducked | 0:02:51 | 0:02:55 | |
and ran upstairs and hid in my room. | 0:02:55 | 0:02:58 | |
I was crying. I was really scared that it wasn't my dad any more. | 0:02:58 | 0:03:02 | |
My dad decided to kill himself. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:05 | |
It was the weekend of Father's Day. | 0:03:05 | 0:03:07 | |
My feelings towards it was... | 0:03:07 | 0:03:08 | |
..shock. And like how, why, questions going mental. | 0:03:11 | 0:03:15 | |
I had nightmares for about a month, | 0:03:15 | 0:03:18 | |
really severe nightmares. | 0:03:18 | 0:03:20 | |
When he realised he was an alcoholic, | 0:03:20 | 0:03:22 | |
I think he started to try and get help. | 0:03:22 | 0:03:26 | |
He was at the doctor's and therapist's, | 0:03:26 | 0:03:28 | |
and I don't think it worked out. | 0:03:28 | 0:03:30 | |
I think he was just too severely depressed. I don't know. | 0:03:30 | 0:03:34 | |
I think he was drunk at the time when he killed himself. So... | 0:03:34 | 0:03:38 | |
My understanding of alcoholism and alcohol addiction | 0:03:42 | 0:03:44 | |
is that it's obviously a drug. | 0:03:44 | 0:03:46 | |
It's a legal drug, but it's still a stupid legal drug. | 0:03:47 | 0:03:51 | |
It kills people, destroys families, destroys lives. | 0:03:51 | 0:03:57 | |
When I see my friends drinking I'm cool, you're having a drink. | 0:03:57 | 0:04:00 | |
I'm not bothered. It doesn't affect me, it affects them. | 0:04:00 | 0:04:04 | |
If I hadn't been through what I've been through, | 0:04:04 | 0:04:07 | |
I'd be different. I wouldn't be as strong. | 0:04:07 | 0:04:09 | |
Stuff would hit me harder than it does. | 0:04:09 | 0:04:12 | |
I think it's always going to stay with me. Your dad's so close to you. | 0:04:12 | 0:04:15 | |
It's always going to be there. It's not going to go away. | 0:04:15 | 0:04:19 | |
I don't think it can. | 0:04:19 | 0:04:20 | |
We have a tradition | 0:04:24 | 0:04:26 | |
that we remember my dad by. It's just a bit of fun. | 0:04:26 | 0:04:30 | |
We pour a bottle of beer over the bench that we've got for him. | 0:04:30 | 0:04:33 | |
It's a bit of a laugh. | 0:04:33 | 0:04:36 | |
It shows we're OK with it, I suppose. | 0:04:36 | 0:04:38 | |
Alcohol changes the way you and your body behave. | 0:04:47 | 0:04:50 | |
From the first sip it affects your brain, which can make you feel nice. | 0:04:50 | 0:04:53 | |
Drink a bit more and it can make you slur your words and go wobbly. | 0:04:53 | 0:04:57 | |
That's your brain and body reaction slowing down. | 0:04:57 | 0:04:59 | |
Drink it for a long time, and it can increase your chances of suffering | 0:04:59 | 0:05:03 | |
brain damage and heart attacks, | 0:05:03 | 0:05:04 | |
liver damage, stomach problems, and cancers. | 0:05:04 | 0:05:07 | |
Alcohol can be fine, as long as people don't overdo it. | 0:05:08 | 0:05:11 | |
The government says it's OK | 0:05:11 | 0:05:13 | |
for adults to drink a small amount a day. | 0:05:13 | 0:05:15 | |
Thank you. But there are stricter rules around alcohol, | 0:05:15 | 0:05:18 | |
like preventing drink-driving and, of course, limiting who can buy it. | 0:05:18 | 0:05:22 | |
You can't buy alcohol until you're 18, | 0:05:22 | 0:05:24 | |
but you can be around adults that are drinking it. | 0:05:24 | 0:05:27 | |
One popular place to drink alcohol is the pub. | 0:05:27 | 0:05:29 | |
There are over 50,000 of them in the UK, | 0:05:29 | 0:05:31 | |
and some of them are family homes, too. Thanks very much. | 0:05:31 | 0:05:34 | |
Hi, my name's Madison and I live here in this pub. | 0:05:38 | 0:05:42 | |
It's a lot different from my friend's house | 0:05:42 | 0:05:46 | |
because there's more people than a real house, | 0:05:46 | 0:05:50 | |
and it's wider and bigger and noisier. | 0:05:50 | 0:05:55 | |
I know more about alcohol than my friends | 0:05:57 | 0:06:00 | |
because I've lived in a pub since I was two. | 0:06:00 | 0:06:03 | |
This is the bar where Mum and Dad serve beer. | 0:06:03 | 0:06:05 | |
These are your bottled drinks and your ciders. | 0:06:05 | 0:06:07 | |
You've got your soft drinks, your alcopops, | 0:06:07 | 0:06:09 | |
and your spirits. | 0:06:09 | 0:06:13 | |
This is the function room. | 0:06:13 | 0:06:14 | |
Me and my brother, Ellis, love playing here because there's loads | 0:06:14 | 0:06:17 | |
of space. | 0:06:17 | 0:06:19 | |
This is the bar, that's our pool table. | 0:06:19 | 0:06:21 | |
I don't think of this room as a bar. | 0:06:21 | 0:06:23 | |
I think of it as our own little space. | 0:06:23 | 0:06:26 | |
DING! DING! | 0:06:28 | 0:06:29 | |
When I see people drinking in the pub, | 0:06:29 | 0:06:31 | |
if they're watching on the big screen, maybe TV, | 0:06:31 | 0:06:34 | |
and have one or two beers, it's not bad or major. | 0:06:34 | 0:06:38 | |
It's just them having a good time. | 0:06:38 | 0:06:41 | |
But, if they have too many, I really don't like that. | 0:06:41 | 0:06:45 | |
Once, this guy, he came in and he had too many drinks, | 0:06:45 | 0:06:49 | |
and he started falling over and falling on chairs and tables. | 0:06:49 | 0:06:54 | |
Then Dad noticed him and he calmed him down and sat him down. | 0:06:54 | 0:06:58 | |
He called him a cab and when the cab arrived, | 0:06:58 | 0:07:01 | |
he gave him the money for the cab and the cab took him home. | 0:07:01 | 0:07:08 | |
If you come this way, these are the barrels of beer. | 0:07:08 | 0:07:12 | |
These pipes go in to these pumps. | 0:07:12 | 0:07:14 | |
Carling and Fosters | 0:07:14 | 0:07:17 | |
and Extra Smooth. | 0:07:17 | 0:07:19 | |
Mum and Dad say drink sensibly and don't drink wildly, | 0:07:19 | 0:07:24 | |
like have too many pints, or have too many whiskies, | 0:07:24 | 0:07:29 | |
or gin and tonics, or wines. | 0:07:29 | 0:07:32 | |
When I'm older, I think that's the message - | 0:07:32 | 0:07:36 | |
always drink responsibly and sensibly. | 0:07:36 | 0:07:38 | |
I don't think drinking wildly like some people do helps them at all. | 0:07:38 | 0:07:45 | |
Adults can be a bit embarrassing when they've had a few drinks. | 0:07:50 | 0:07:53 | |
Dad! | 0:07:53 | 0:07:54 | |
Some children find their parents' heavy drinking so upsetting | 0:07:54 | 0:07:57 | |
they keep it a big secret. | 0:07:57 | 0:07:59 | |
Now, because alcohol affects the brain, adults don't always realise | 0:07:59 | 0:08:02 | |
if they're drinking too much or too often. They might pretend it's OK. | 0:08:02 | 0:08:05 | |
It's not affecting them or their families and it can be difficult | 0:08:05 | 0:08:08 | |
for them to admit that their drinking is out of control. | 0:08:08 | 0:08:11 | |
That's what happened to Ben's mum. She's now in control of her drinking | 0:08:11 | 0:08:15 | |
but we've hidden the family's identity | 0:08:15 | 0:08:16 | |
because it's still a delicate issue. | 0:08:16 | 0:08:18 | |
When my mum first started drinking, she wasn't that bad, | 0:08:24 | 0:08:28 | |
she just had a couple on a night. | 0:08:28 | 0:08:30 | |
But when she started getting worse, it used to be during the day. | 0:08:30 | 0:08:34 | |
When I lost my father I was drinking up to four bottles of whisky a day. | 0:08:34 | 0:08:40 | |
I knew my mum was drunk because she used to be like that | 0:08:40 | 0:08:44 | |
all the time, and sway. | 0:08:44 | 0:08:45 | |
I was doing it because I thought it was helping me cope. | 0:08:45 | 0:08:49 | |
But, obviously, it was making everything worse. | 0:08:49 | 0:08:54 | |
I was under the influence that bad, I never realised how much drink | 0:08:54 | 0:08:59 | |
I had got. My every thought was taxicabs to fetch more. | 0:08:59 | 0:09:02 | |
We did a lot of taxi journeys to go to | 0:09:04 | 0:09:08 | |
the newsagents, drink shops, basically. | 0:09:08 | 0:09:11 | |
It would be, like, every day. | 0:09:11 | 0:09:14 | |
-I would just stand outside waiting. -I could see... | 0:09:14 | 0:09:17 | |
..that it was hurting him that I was actually fetching alcohol. | 0:09:18 | 0:09:24 | |
But because of being under the influence of alcohol, | 0:09:24 | 0:09:27 | |
I didn't really care, unfortunately. | 0:09:27 | 0:09:30 | |
Sometimes when I used to walk to school, my mum would be sitting | 0:09:30 | 0:09:34 | |
on the park bench, drinking. | 0:09:34 | 0:09:35 | |
I would look at her and I'd look away, like I don't know her, | 0:09:35 | 0:09:39 | |
because it used to embarrass me. | 0:09:39 | 0:09:41 | |
It's a terrible feeling. | 0:09:41 | 0:09:43 | |
You can imagine yourself as a child, | 0:09:45 | 0:09:47 | |
seeing your own mother or father do it, how you'd feel. | 0:09:47 | 0:09:52 | |
But when you're under the influence of alcohol, | 0:09:52 | 0:09:55 | |
nothing else matters, only alcohol. | 0:09:55 | 0:09:57 | |
The house was all fell apart, really. | 0:09:57 | 0:10:00 | |
It was dirty and messy. | 0:10:00 | 0:10:03 | |
My mum was on the sofa and there would be cans all over the place. | 0:10:04 | 0:10:09 | |
There was cans, clothes, bottles, that's it, | 0:10:09 | 0:10:14 | |
-all over the place. -You don't care, you don't care about anything at all | 0:10:14 | 0:10:20 | |
as long as you've got that drink. | 0:10:20 | 0:10:22 | |
I kept it a big secret. | 0:10:22 | 0:10:25 | |
I didn't tell my friends about my mum's drinking, because | 0:10:25 | 0:10:28 | |
I felt that they might take the mick out of me and call me names and that. | 0:10:28 | 0:10:32 | |
Nobody understood what it was like for me. The teachers always used | 0:10:32 | 0:10:37 | |
to tell me to tell me to sit down when I got angry, and everything. | 0:10:37 | 0:10:41 | |
They didn't know what I was going through. | 0:10:41 | 0:10:43 | |
For me to sit here and realise it now, what that child of mine | 0:10:43 | 0:10:47 | |
must have gone through... | 0:10:47 | 0:10:48 | |
I wanted help with my family, because... | 0:10:48 | 0:10:52 | |
I love my mum and I wanted her to get back to the way it was before. | 0:10:52 | 0:10:57 | |
It was really making me angry and upset. | 0:10:57 | 0:10:59 | |
It took my mum 28 days to stop drinking. | 0:11:01 | 0:11:05 | |
The hospital helped my mum with drinking, | 0:11:05 | 0:11:08 | |
and it gradually got better. | 0:11:08 | 0:11:11 | |
Eventually she was just... fit to come out. | 0:11:11 | 0:11:15 | |
Luckily, I have been spared my life, because I could have been dead, | 0:11:15 | 0:11:19 | |
but luckily I'm alive | 0:11:19 | 0:11:20 | |
and I'm going to make his life absolutely fantastic. | 0:11:20 | 0:11:24 | |
Now mum's not drinking, she's happy | 0:11:24 | 0:11:25 | |
and does more things for me and I love her. | 0:11:25 | 0:11:28 | |
We did sit on the park bench where I used to sit consuming alcohol, | 0:11:28 | 0:11:33 | |
but both of us sat there with pride. | 0:11:33 | 0:11:36 | |
Yeah, I feel really relieved to have her back. | 0:11:37 | 0:11:40 | |
Alcohol can affect many people's lives in so many different ways. | 0:11:50 | 0:11:53 | |
Sometimes it can be a real problem which can take families years | 0:11:53 | 0:11:56 | |
to deal with, or sometimes it's just a part of everyday life. | 0:11:56 | 0:12:00 | |
My dad doesn't drink, but my mum sometimes drinks. | 0:12:02 | 0:12:06 | |
She only drinks at special occasions or at parties. | 0:12:06 | 0:12:09 | |
I don't mind adults drinking, but there has to be a limit | 0:12:09 | 0:12:12 | |
of two to three glasses. | 0:12:12 | 0:12:14 | |
I see them drinking outside, near bars and restaurants. | 0:12:14 | 0:12:20 | |
Sometimes it frightens me when I see people shouting and all that. | 0:12:20 | 0:12:23 | |
But if they're just drinking and talking, it doesn't frighten me. | 0:12:23 | 0:12:30 | |
My mum and dad only drink on special occasions, | 0:12:30 | 0:12:32 | |
and I don't really mind it. | 0:12:32 | 0:12:34 | |
My dad normally just has a beer, and my mum just has one glass of wine. | 0:12:34 | 0:12:38 | |
I think two bottles of champagne and wine are too much to drink. | 0:12:38 | 0:12:42 | |
I see adults drinking most of the time in pubs. | 0:12:42 | 0:12:46 | |
I really want to tell them | 0:12:46 | 0:12:48 | |
that they should stop drinking, but it's up to them to decide. | 0:12:48 | 0:12:52 | |
So you've heard a lot about the experiences | 0:12:52 | 0:12:54 | |
of people living with alcohol. | 0:12:54 | 0:12:55 | |
It had a really big impact on the lives of Liam and Ben, | 0:12:55 | 0:12:59 | |
and they found it difficult to talk about. | 0:12:59 | 0:13:01 | |
But their families got help, | 0:13:01 | 0:13:02 | |
and since then things have been looking much better. | 0:13:02 | 0:13:05 | |
There are grown-ups who understand, | 0:13:05 | 0:13:07 | |
and they'll be able to give you the right support. | 0:13:07 | 0:13:10 | |
For most of you, being around alcohol will be fine, | 0:13:10 | 0:13:12 | |
just like it is for Madison. | 0:13:12 | 0:13:14 | |
But it is important to remember, if you are worried, | 0:13:14 | 0:13:16 | |
you don't have to keep things to yourself. | 0:13:16 | 0:13:19 | |
Tell a friend, a grown-up, or someone you trust. | 0:13:19 | 0:13:22 | |
There's more information on the Newsround website. | 0:13:22 | 0:13:24 | |
Subtitles by Red Bee Media Ltd | 0:13:37 | 0:13:40 | |
E-mail [email protected] | 0:13:40 | 0:13:43 |