Episode 2 Fix My Family

This programme contains some strong language.

-What happens to our kids?

-One minute, they're sweet,

and before you know it, they've morphed into moody teenagers...

-You're useless.

-..Struggling with the challenges of adolescence...

Get out of my fucking room!

..Leaving their parents wondering, exactly where did they go wrong?

I just want you to piss off!

I'm sitting down! I'm sat down!

Shut up!

These three families are suffering serious Teen Trouble!

-Are you OK?

-The situation's bad enough already...

You just said you weren't hungry!

You know exactly what you're doing, Chloe!

I hate you!

Great show.

Desperate for change, they have signed up for a week-long retreat away from their usual routines

and home comforts in a bid to turn their lives around.

The location, Greenhill YMCA in Newcastle, County Down.

An expert team will put the families through a tough programme of psychotherapy

and physical activities.

They're here to deal with their teens' behaviour,

but will it turn out that the parents are as much to blame as their kids?

The group will be pushed to their limits and taken way beyond their comfort zones...

Oh, my God!

..In an attempt to rebuild their confidence...

Fucking bitch!

..And their relationships.

But can they step up to the challenge

and grasp this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity?

SHOUTING

Previously on Teen Trouble...

the families arrived and met each other and the experts

for the first time.

For me, this week is all about you reconnecting with each other.

The most important thing is that you speak your mind.

We're here to help you make the changes

that you really want to happen.

The new faces and unfamiliar surroundings

soon proved overwhelming for Chloe.

Chloe, her mum Cathy and stepdad Beano are from Derry.

With Cathy and Beano's two younger kids also in the house, it's always chaotic.

You want to get out?

Chloe's behaviour is blamed for a lot of the arguments and her tantrums are part of life.

-Turn it down!

-You're not going to fucking hide!

Cathy and Beano hope to change that

and both want a better relationship with Chloe.

Andrea has come away with her three teenage children,

Rachel, Josh and Naomi.

Family life is dominated by violent verbal and physical fights between the sisters.

Stop it!

I hate you!

Petty arguments escalate quickly out of control.

I was so angry that I broke the hoover and started smacking her with it.

It affects the whole family and they all simply want it to stop.

Get off it right now!

Siobhan desperately wants a relationship with her daughter.

Ciara's life revolves around her friends

but often she doesn't tell her mum where she's going or who she's with.

-When am I going to know where you are actually going.

-I don't know!

Incidents involving alcohol have led to a serious loss of trust.

Siobhan knows Ciara can be funny and outgoing,

but most of the time that side of her personality is kept well hidden.

By the end of the first day away from home,

the teens had already shocked their parents by giving up their mobile phones without a fight

and even doing the washing-up.

The group had bonded and the mood was high.

But up early for the first full day of psychotherapy and outdoor activities,

are the families feeling as positive as they were last night?

-Please, can I join you?

-No.

I love you.

It's trying something different, you know...

and we'll just see what the day brings now.

It's all happy families for the three teens next door.

-Are you not having nothing?

-I already had cereal.

It could be too early to say about the arguments and stuff because it's only day 2,

but it seems more better

and everyone seems to be getting along so far at the minute.

If we were in the house,

we'd probably be arguing and angry and fighting and stuff like that,

so I don't know. It feels different,

but we'll see as the week goes on how it goes.

And as usual things seem quite strained between Ciara and her mum.

How do you find that, Ciara?

You not going to answer that?

No?

Outdoor activities expert Ian Bailey is in charge of the early morning exercise.

He's just pleased the teens have bothered to turn up.

Anyone want to take a guess at what these three sets of wooden planks are for?

The three of us is going to have to go and walk with them.

Bang on, yeah. These are skis. These are big skis.

The way it works is that each family gets a set of skis.

You're going to race against each other

and you're going to head up round those cones and then back to these white cones, to the finish line.

We're using a series of what we call trust games that really help families engage with one another

and trust one another to make decisions and work together as a team,

which, clearly for these families,

has been a really difficult thing to do these last few years,

so it's all about bringing that together,

hopefully under the guise of good fun.

-Right foot forward.

-Right foot!

-Left foot!

-Have you any ideas how you're going to do this?

-No.

-HE LAUGHS

-You're going to have to talk to each other!

It's all about rhythm.

-She's going to get cranky and shout at us.

-Yes, I am!

Chloe's already decided it's too hard and has given up.

Despite barely speaking, Ciara and her mum have romped home across the finish line...

with time to spare.

There's no point all coming over here if I've got to go on it! No!

Just leave me alone!

-It's only a bit of fun.

-I told you I don't want to do it.

-You didn't tell me, you didn't know what we were going to do.

-I don't want to do that one!

-But we're all having a laugh.

-I don't want to do it!

-You not fancy it now?

-No. I'm sorry, I don't want to do it.

-Just youse do it, Mummy.

-But...

-Go and do it!

-Just do it!

-Don't speak to me like that!

-I don't want to do it!

I'll tell you what, Chloe, how's about if you stand off the skis?

-No...

-So you do the speaking.

-I don't want to do it all, please.

-I just don't want...

-Why don't you give the orders?

-Oh, I don't...

-Do what Ian says.

I'm not actually letting you stand out, so you've got two jobs.

-You can either gives the orders...

-I'll give the orders, then.

-Right, come on.

-Come on.

Some of them are struggling. We've had already Chloe walking off, an argument was building,

and I simply said, "No, Chloe, the rule is you have to join in."

And she accepted that and she stepped up.

It was almost cut through it, stop this escalating drama and just tell it as it is and move on.

So when you say no, she does it.

-If you say left, they'll lift the left, if you say right, they'll lift the right.

-Left.

Right.

We don't know which is left and right now.

It's great to see her working with Cathy and Beano and having a really good time.

-We're going...

-Excellent! That's right.

Three times you fell.

Three times.

Come to your crates. You're going to use these crates to get from here to those red cones at the far end.

This particular game is called crates, for obvious reasons,

and literally we just need to move the crates together as a team, one by one,

so it's going to be, in other words, lots of people huddling together on a small amount of space.

They're going to have to hug one another.

-No!

-What do you mean?

-I won't pull you over.

-Yes, you will.

For some it will be the first time they've actually been in close contact for maybe even years.

Grab a hold of each other.

-Move!

-Your hand's in the way. I can't move.

Good now.

You're useless!

Move! Do you think I'm going to stand in that wee space?

-Where do you want me to go?

-Closer to the edge.

I'll tip it over.

-Oh, no!

-I'm not going back to get you.

One of the things I really noticed with Ciara is that she really is quite disengaged from her mum.

Cos you won't let me hold on to you properly!

-If you'd let me hold on to you properly...

-Oh, my God, I'm going mad!

Come here, now, come on!

It must be quite tough as a parent watching that, you think, "Oh, I kind of feel for her mum."

No, get off me!

Amanda can see that Siobhan's really hurt by what's just happened with Ciara.

A game which should have been fun has simply highlighted the rift between them,

leaving Siobhan struggling to hold on to her emotions.

She just pushed me away like that.

How long's it been like that for?

Quite a while.

Was there any one thing that prompted it or was there an incident, anything like that?

-No...she...as a child she was very clingy to me...

-Mm-hm.

And, you know, went everywhere with me and always wanted me to be there

and always wanted to know where I was and...

-Does she hug and kiss people at all?

-Her friends.

-So she's very touchy-feely with her friends?

-It's not that that's the way she is all the time with everybody.

-Yeah.

-Just feel like she doesn't want me to be there.

-Mmm.

Although it hasn't always been that way, things have been hard going at home for 14-year-old Ciara

and her mum Siobhan for a few years now.

It can be very difficult at times.

We don't have the best relationship

and communication can be very poor.

-You'll be in a 9.45.

-Yeah, I should be.

-No, you will be, Ciara!

-Yeah, all right, I should be.

-No, should be and will be are two different things.

-No, it's not, shut up!

'She thinks that we can't talk at all.'

She's said in the past that we have nothing in common.

"I can't have a conversation with you," she says, "We've nothing to talk about it."

-9.45.

-Right! Jesus Christ!

-And will you let me know where you're going before you go.

'I just couldn't imagine it.'

-Couldn't imagine being able to talk to me?

-No!

I just don't want to.

I could talk to you, but I don't want to.

It would probably be, like, easier if we got on better...

..like me and Mummy.

-It would be a happier family life for everyone, wouldn't it?

-Yeah.

In their shared pursuit of that elusive happy family life,

back at Greenhill

the parents are meeting together for the first time

with clinical psychologist Dr Raman Kapur.

Perhaps difficult for you to start?

Or expecting me to start?

-Expecting you...

-Expecting you to start.

-OK.

'In terms of my style for conducting a group session,

'my kind of main message really to the group is, "I'm going to wait and see.'

"You bring what you can to the group

"and I will do my best to understand it

"and say something about what I think is happening in the room."

But it's not only about waiting and seeing.

It's also about giving the patient a chance to see that they have a lot to contribute themselves.

Don't put it all into me. You have a lot of intuition,

you have a lot of experience you bring to the room and that can be shared.

And then you've got a working group.

Ciara and I had a good time this morning at the activities,

but there was a bit of an issue with the second game that we played,

because it involved us actually physically holding on to one another.

That's something Ciara really doesn't like...

is me touching her or showing affection or anything like that,

-so it was difficult for me that one.

-Mmm.

Like Chloe, at the start, even the games today she didn't really want to participate.

But then the second one and with Chloe jumping across a crate to hold on to me,

she started giving me a hug too, you know what I mean?

That's the first time, like, she's even been that close to me or even spending time...

I mean, I think the whole rejection-acceptance sort of line is very tricky,

because of course you want to feel accepted and be accepted,

but then when the person you're approaching is pushing you away,

it's a horrible feeling, particularly as a parent, to feel that you're not wanted.

You ask yourself what did I do wrong? Where am I going wrong?

You know... what's next or what can I do next?

The difficult thing to do is take the hits and understand.

You know, the normal reaction of course is to retaliate or go away.

And maybe by the end of the work with me, if you can put a wee bit of understanding into it,

you can begin to see why they're doing what they're doing.

Unfortunately, kids, particularly teenagers will hit you where it hurts.

They'll find your Achilles' Heel and it's just trying to remember that adolescents

are at their peak of finding your Achilles' Heel.

Rachel's family consultations are designed to help the parents and their teens

work together on understanding what's gone wrong.

Making it practical like this mask-making session for Siobhan and Ciara

takes the focus off the need to talk directly to each other.

We all have like an external mask that we show to the world.

What goes with that external mask is a whole load of feelings and thoughts that we keep inside.

So I just wanted to do something today to just explore that a little bit and talk about it.

'With the mask session, what I was hoping

'is just to open up discussions around what they're like as people,

'both the outwards mask that they present to friends and family,'

but also what's going on underneath that

and to just start to talk about emotions

and some of the more sensitive issues that are going on for them at the moment.

-Does that seem relevant to the situation?

-Very relevant actually,

because when the cameras came into the house...

"As soon as those cameras are here, you put on your telephone voice! You don't speak normally!"

What's different about Mum's telephone voice, the kind of voice...?

Cos it's fake!

Right. Right... So thinking about Mum's mask, then, to start with,

what of these items, is there anything that would stand out that for you would be on Mum's mask?

No.

No? So what sorts of things would we be thinking about for her mask?

Just plain, black and white.

Right, OK.

In terms of Ciara's mask, what do you think would stand out on the table or...?

-All bright things.

-Ah?

Because she really has a bright personality, I think, you know.

Although her and I don't have a great connection, she has a great connection with everybody else...

you know.

Would you agree with Mum about your mask being a colourful one?

I think so, yeah.

OK. Do you want to dive in and have a go at trying

to create the outside of the mask that others might see?

When you were talking

about Ciara's connection with other people, Siobhan,

I noticed it was kind of an emotional subject.

Yeah.

Shouldn't the best connection you have be with your mother?

Right.

That's a strong connection that you have with your mum.

Yeah.

For you, Ciara, can you see that changing?

I suppose so.

OK. You're not sounding too convinced.

It's just a bit weird.

Mmm...can you talk me through the masks, then?

They've ended up looking very similar.

-Is that the way you would see Mum, the way she's done her mask?

-No!

-It sounded a bit different to what you described before.

-Yeah.

So if Mum was being more genuine, Ciara, what would that look like?

I don't know how to explain it, but again colours,

so it would be like greens and... I don't know, colours that make me think of outside, and browns...

Oh?

Just like natural, you know...

Ah...

OK.

'I sort of had an idea that Ciara thinks that...'

I can be fake, at times. But I didn't realise how fake she thought I could be.

I didn't realise how strongly she felt about it...

Obviously it's a big issue. She thinks I'm...false.

False and fake at the same time.

So now we've a lot of work to do, I think.

What do you think?

I suppose.

After their busy morning, you'd think everybody would be hungry and ready for lunch.

But at least one of these teenagers is such a fussy eater, he can't find anything he likes on the menu.

-Stop smelling it and eat it!

-Shut up!

Josh pretty much lives on a diet of pizza, pasta and cheese.

Does Amanda know you don't like it?

The way that I work here and the kids have all signed up to it is...'

you've got to try something on your plate.

You try it, you don't like it, I'll come up with an alternative.

-You've tried it, though, haven't you?

-Yeah, I've ate the top of it.

Try and eat a wee bit more of it and I'll go and see what else I can get.

'This is nothing to do with nutrition.

'This is actually just about basic discipline

'and helping these families'

find a workable way to three meals a day.

Everybody else is sitting down. You need to eat something.

-There's ordinary chicken up there.

-I just don't like it, Mummy.

What would you like instead if you could choose something?

'If the kid is pulling back and restricting how they're eating,'

what they're eating, dictating how the family lives its life,

it's really hard for the parents and the kids actually to find a way through.

-You've had nothing for breakfast.

-Well, go and eat one and I'll pick something.

-I have time, I'm just worried about you.

-Go on and pick something...

-I have something.

-Well, go and eat it, then.

-But I want you to eat along with me.

I'll go and get something to eat if you go away and leave me alone!

'Chloe's the only one right now that is really finding it tough.'

But that's no surprise really because at home what she does is go into the cupboard,

gets biscuits and crisps whenever she wants,

doesn't eat with the family and she is the boss when it comes to food, not the parents.

For the modern family mealtimes can be a total nightmare.

We're rarely sitting down to eat together, our cupboards are full of snacks,

everyone is demanding different meals and parents are simply giving in to the pressure.

For these families it's no different.

We're having cod tonight, though Josh'll probably have his usual pizza

as he doesn't eat what everybody else eats.

-I never come home for dinner.

-You should be coming home for dinner.

-Do you want some of this?

-Yeah.

-Eh?

-Waffles.

-Do you want waffles?

This year Christmas Day was the first day we all sat down and ate, but during the week, no...

because I'm making three or four dinners at a time.

It's not fair, but. They're saying eat, eat, eat, and I don't want to eat.

There's nothing I even like anyway, it's all meat and stuff, it turns my stomach.

My stomach was already turning anyway.

It's Beano who manages to persuade Chloe to rejoin the group.

Events over lunch have confirmed Amanda's worries about food and mealtimes being an issue,

and she's about to set another test for the families.

Tonight, you're all cooking for yourselves in your individual chalets.

You've got three different menus here.

Healthy fish and chips, spaghetti bolognese or homemade pizza.

The kids are going to help cook and you're going to do it together.

It's one meal that everyone is having, so come to the compromise.

-I don't like any of them.

-What about fish and chips?

-No, I don't any of them.

-You know I don't. You can't force me.

-The thing is...

You dare!

I'm not going to eat it. I just don't want any pizza.

-There's three different things...

-I don't want anything.

-What's the decision here?

-Healthy fish, chips and peas.

- She doesn't eat spaghetti bolognese. - I don't like fish either!

OK, parents, you're going to have to be the parents here and just make the decision.

-We have.

-We have. This is it.

-Healthy fish.

-No fish!

You're not giving me fish!

-That's all right.

-You know I'm not going to eat it.

Do you know what? I'm going to make it, I'm going to put it out,

so if you don't want to eat it, you'll starve!

-Even eat the chips and peas without the fish.

-Can you eat the chips?

I will let you starve, Chloe, because it's the only way.

Then you'll wake up and you'll be hungry.

Cathy and Beano are trying hard to stand firm and present a united front,

something Chloe's not used to.

Josh's food fads have meant Naomi's had to compromise too and she's seriously annoyed.

I want the fish and chips but I have to keep him happy because he doesn't eat.

-You said you were fine with it.

-No, I didn't say I was fine with it.

-I had to say I was fine.

-You said you were fine with it.

Yeah, but if we had had the fish and chips then you'd have been happy and he'd have been sad

-and it would have been the same.

-Yes, so why do I always have to lose?

-You don't even eat at home!

-What is the big deal?

Each with their own issues, the teens will see clinical psychologist Dr Rachel Andrew

on an individual basis across the week. Chloe's first.

I guess for me I was wondering about what you thought the main difficulties were

for you in your family.

My behaviour.

Your behaviour?

OK.

What is it about your behaviour?

Being cheeky and that.

OK. I was just thinking, if we were to write like a shopping list...

of things that you would hope would be different by the end of the week,

would that be all right?

Could we do that? OK.

So if we had a list and we called this our list of problems...

..would you have being cheeky on there as number one?

-Ah, right. Is that the thing that Mummy says is the biggest problem for her?

-Sometimes.

OK. And do you think it's a problem for you?

Why?

Cos you're trying to hold it in, but you'll still be cheeky.

So on our list, our shopping list, we've got being cheeky...

-Being friendly with people, like being nice...

-Instead?

-Instead, be nice to people instead of being cheeky all the time.

-Right.

Do you find that hard?

-No, not really.

-So you think you could be nice to other people?

I'm being nice to Naomi, why can I not be nice to my mammy?

-Mmm.

-There's a problem, but.

I'll be nice to other people, but not nice to my mammy.

Mmm. And Beano? Or is that something you're too bothered about?

No?

OK.

Cos when your mum was talking about Beano she seemed to be thinking that he really made an effort with you.

is that the way that you see things?

I don't know.

'"I don't know" comes up a lot in sessions, and especially with teenagers,

'and that can be for a whole host of reasons.'

"I don't know" is just a stock answer that people will use,

rather than think about something that's quite complicated or messy or difficult.

A bit complicated.

Chloe's clammed up at the mention of Beano.

Clearly there's work to be done, but for now that's enough.

After the intensity of the psychotherapy sessions, the teens will need a release.

They're getting the chance to try out the equipment they've been eyeing up since they arrived.

Being an outdoor centre, here at Greenhill there are some seriously challenging things to do,

and one of them is something called the Leap Of Faith,

which is like a totem pole that you climb up, quite high,

and you stand and you jump off. obviously, you've got a rope attached to you...

and leap to hold on to what is like a trapeze.

-I'm scared!

-All you've got to do is put your hands up high and jump and grab it. Are you ready?

-Let's go.

-Three, two, one.

Aaargh!

It looks terrifying.

And we're going to ask the teens to do it.

Lots of reasons why. Of course these things build an incredible amount of self-confidence,

team spirit, people encouraging one another...

-Are you ready?

-Don't worry.

-Up you go.

-OK.

I'm going to do this.

I'm going to do it.

-Oh, my God!

-Go on, you're going great.

I'm really, really scared.

Mummy!

Save me!

Go on, give your sister some encouragement.

-You're actually just like one more step away.

-That's it.

There's no point coming back down when you've already got so far.

-She's shaking.

-Keep breathing, Naomi, it stops your legs shaking like that.

Go on, go on, just stand up tall.

Stand up, push hard.

Excellent.

Go on, go on!

Mummy, Mummy, stand here and say. "You're jumping into my arms, baby girl!"

Come on, baby, Mummy's here.

I can't stand up.

-You're nearly there.

-Just a couple of big deep breaths. Don't overthink it.

-Just a couple of deep breaths and stand up.

-Well done, darling.

-Excellent, excellent.

That's it. Just stand up straight.

-You'll be a lot more stable once you're stood up.

-Yeah!

-Good.

One, two, three...

Jump!

CHEERING

Get me down!

That's the scariest thing I've ever done, ever!

You did it. You should be so proud of yourself.

Sure...

-Go, Ciara!

-Are you ready?

Yes!

Oh, yes, oh, yeah.

Up you go.

-You want to go again?

-Well done.

Making it look easy, Ciara's even dropped the sulky teenager persona.

It looks like the boards are going to come off!

It's shaking!

LAUGHTER

Not wanting to put Ciara off, Siobhan is watching from a distance.

-Go on, do it.

-One, two, three.

Jump!

CHEERING

Let go!

OK, just let go.

-Oh!

-You don't have to grab your butt on the way down! It's all right.

Oh!

Fantastic! Well done! Excellent.

Cathy is seeing Raman in a one-on-one for the first time.

She's making a real effort to try and understand the root of Chloe's problems.

I've been thinking...

you know, was it because Beano has come into her life?

It's not me and her.

We've never sat down and...

..really thought about it in that kind of way.

You know, I do spend my time with Chloe, you know.

She's just such a special gift to me,

because I was bred with my granny and two uncles...

..and Chloe was only ten weeks old when my grandmother died.

And...then the two uncles died.

And it was just me and her, you know.

And I speak about them all the time there, you know,

and I remember one night we were sitting, the two of us, and she was just...

the memory, that was a good memory, and we were looking out the window,

she was going to bed and looking out the window and seeing the moon...

and I remember saying, you know, "Look at that moon there."

And she said, "Is that my granny, my Uncle Joe and Charlie looking down at me?"

You know, the memory's lovely.

-So she had the three moons looking down at her...

-Aye.

Now she's got three rivals, so it's a bit of a jump for her

to adjust to being so special, being in the moonlight three times,

to really being pushed out of the limelight, I think.

Not through any fault of your own now,

but it's just tough for any child to adapt to that shift.

But she doesn't get treated any lesser.

In fact, she'll probably get more attention off me, do you know what I mean?

I think you do try very hard to do that,

and I think you do keep it in mind,

but I think the reality is that no matter how much you do, it can never be the same as before.

Because once she gets upset and there's a fight,

she does become the centre of your attention because she has to be.

So, in a sense, I'm not suggesting that you kind of give up in any way,

but it may be there's that legacy from the past that she can quickly feel excluded...

because it wasn't what it was like before.

I don't know, maybe that's her paying back now, as you say...

for being made so special.

Realising that...

I don't even think she realised... I don't even think we realised it...

-..that this is what it's got to do with now.

-Yeah, so this is all going on very powerfully, you know,

hidden in her mind and, er...

-I think the more you're aware of it, the more able...

-To control it now.

-Yeah, to help her move on...

-Aye, definitely.

Definitely.

Just one hour with Raman has helped Cathy see what's been staring her in the face all along.

It's a moment of revelation for her.

It's amazing when somebody sits down and talks with you and sort of puts things straight to your head,

you know, straight into you, that you don't realise.

I'm at least going to try.

Cos it was us on our own for so long that I spoiled her so much and made her so special...

When the other children came along and Beano came along, it...

she thought she was left out.

Heartbreaking.

I feel as if it's all my fault now, the way she is now.

Agreeing to make pizza for dinner was one of today's easier conversations for Siobhan and Ciara,

and things are going pretty well in the kitchen.

-More tomato puree.

-A bit more.

It's a thing that we wouldn't do very often is cook together,

so it's an easy thing actually for everybody to take part in,

so, yeah, it would be a good idea to make it a regular thing, I think.

-Can I put the mushrooms on?

-On mine?

-Yeah.

-Yes, of course.

I like the feel of mushrooms.

And Naomi has managed to put aside her annoyance with Josh.

Have you only used one tube?

No, you're using the rest of my tube.

Naomi said she was fine with it, even though she wasn't really fine with it, she wanted fish and chips.

She decided she would take one for the team and make pizza.

It's just there...

Fresh fish and sweet potato are totally new to Cathy's kids,

and showing a real change in attitude since lunchtime, Chloe's giving it a go.

Even getting all the kids sitting at the table at the same time to eat the same meal is real progress.

But three-year-old Reise's refusal to try the fish is suddenly the final straw for Beano

who's struggling himself with the unfamiliar diet and can't see the point of it.

-Do you want some?

-No!

-Do you want more fish?

I don't want nothing either.

-The fish is nearly done.

-I wouldn't even that to my dog, Cath!

-Oh, just stop your...

-That wean's sitting eating fucking peas!

You might as well count them when you're eating them!

But we know at the end of the day you have to eat it.

-They don't have to eat it, they have to try it.

-They'll try it, aye!

One, two, three, four, five...

-There, you see?

-None!

-Don't eat them, then!

-You can have more if you want.

-That's food?

-Go on and give it a rest, will you?

-Just give it a rest!

-Give what a rest?

-Just give it a rest!

-Give what a rest?

-The way you're going on.

-I'm just going on the way I'm going on!

-It's all about Chloe!

-It seems to be all about you!

-It's nothing to do with me, nothing to do with us!

We're not on no diet. Are we on a diet? Are we healthy?

I'm a 42-year-old man and they want me to eat healthy food!

And I'm eating so-what kind of food all my life?

That's fine!

Why don't you take a walk and calm yourself down?

-I am calm!

-No, you're not.

Just take yourself away! Go off somewhere.

-I'm going to sit here.

-Oh, right?

Where's Chloe?

He's a 42-year-old man! He doesn't want to eat healthy, look!

It's not just, like, us. Mum is eating fairly light.

In the heat of the moment the fact that Chloe ate her dinner has gone completely unnoticed.

Right there.

Where is it?

Get it open.

It's the end of a long day, but only the start of the week,

and already there are clear developments to be seen.

While the families have some fun and forget about their worries,

the experts meet to contemplate the day's events.

It has been a momentous day of change and drama.

I want to start with Ciara and her mum.

Do you feel like they're coming back together a little bit?

I think it's going to be a gradual process,

but certainly in the session I had with them both today,

just the fact that they were sat in a room together trying to manage a conversation like that,

I felt was a step forward.

I think Cathy has definitely got that capacity to think things through

and she was beginning to understand how complicated it is for Chloe to be part of this new family,

and so, yes, I think there's potential there with Cathy.

What I'd be hoping is that if the parents can change their state of mind to the kids,

be more understanding and more receptive, almost be a bit cooler...

I'd agree, and I think if we were to see changes in the parents,

then there would be a knock-on effect with the children as well.

It's quite a bitter pill for the parents to swallow though

if they think, "Hold on a minute, this is me, I created this."

They came here thinking, "I've got a problem teenager. I want that teenager to be fixed!"

-Yeah.

-And we're saying, "Actually, here's a mirror, here's your problem!"

Next time, the group gets down and dirty...

Naomi's in the firing line...

It's always me, they all gang up on me at once

and tell me what I'm doing wrong all the time.

There's a revelation from Chloe...

-You're scared?

-I'm scared of when he...

And a breakthrough for Ciara and Siobhan.

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