Amy and Naomi Underage and Pregnant

When I found out I was pregnant, I was 15.

Me and Petrit's been on and off for two years.

'They'll never be good for each other.'

It's such a volatile relationship they've got.

It's not fair on Jacob.

What do you mean, it's over?

What, so you're just going to leave me?

Huh?

I think I deserve a lot better than him.

He's just a pathetic low life.

16-year-old Amy lives in Plymouth with her mum and son Jacob,

who's 11 months old.

'I was using contraception now and then.'

But the times that I didn't,

I did take a morning after pill.

But there was this one time that I didn't

and that's obviously when I got caught.

Mum Andrea made Amy take a pregnancy test.

As soon as I found out what the results were,

I smacked her over her head

and obviously called her every name under the sun.

So I wasn't very happy.

Amy's ex-boyfriend, Petrit, was 17

and didn't cope well with becoming a dad.

I just didn't know what to do with myself, to be honest.

Didn't know where to go, what to do, who to speak to.

I just felt like running away.

I was in shock and I just told Amy

I didn't know what to do. I wasn't ready for a kid.

I thought he would stay with me, all the way through.

But...he sort of done a runner on me.

They're no longer a couple, but Petrit and Amy

are trying to stay friends for Jacob's sake.

My biggest fear for Amy and Petrit is them getting back together.

She just does not get no help from him.

He's just a waste of space, he really is.

Petrit's Albanian Muslim family

are also against the teens having contact.

My dad and my mum,

they would have preferred me marrying a Muslim girl.

They want me to be in the same culture as my brothers and my dad.

I don't know Muslim rules.

I always went with the English rules, to be honest.

You stay in England, you've got England's rules.

That's it. My dad didn't like it. I told him straight.

It's all hard now

because his family don't like me,

my family don't like him.

But Petrit is still determined to win Amy back.

'I'm going to prove her wrong,

'that I will be there for her and the same for Jacob.'

She don't know how bad that I want her back.

Right, your mum is stopping us two from going out with each other.

-You said to your mum this morning...

-But it's not just my mum.

It's everybody.

I just want to be there for Jacob.

There's no point seeing each other

if we're not going to get back with each other.

But how are we going to get back together, yeah?

The way your family is with me?

Does it matter? Look at your family with me.

Why can't you just be with me and no-one's got to know about it?

Yeah, but it's not you that gets called names, Petrit. It's me.

Every time I'm with you, I get called a name by my family.

Is that a mug?

I want to know, please, before it gets too late.

Too late for what?

-For me and you.

-What, for you to move on?

I don't want to move on, don't you understand? I love you.

But if I get back with you, I'll find you in bed with another girl.

That ain't going to happen.

What would you rather do?

Rush into it, then start arguing again, like we always used to do?

That's not good for Jacob.

In Derbyshire, 16-year-old Naomi

lives alone with her four-month-old baby, Leo.

I wouldn't change Leo for the world, but I wish I'd waited a bit longer.

I didn't feel ready to be a mum at 15.

It was kind of a shock to know

that I was going to be a mum in secondary school,

while doing my exams.

She had just broken up with her long-term boyfriend.

A week after we'd split up, I told him that I was pregnant.

But that night I got pregnant, we didn't use anything.

It was New Year's Eve and we was really, really drunk.

So it didn't really cross our minds.

Naomi's mum Claire is also a single parent.

To Bob, 14,

Jensen, 11, Emma, nine,

Jessica, three, and baby Ellie, who's six months old.

I just started crying,

because I thought, "She's going to go through what I went through."

I wanted her to have her youth, go out.

You know, friends, have a life sort of thing.

I were just totally shocked.

Mum Claire was pregnant with her sixth child

at the same time as Naomi.

Well, I found out about two weeks before Naomi.

We was basically the talk of the town,

which was quite embarrassing

when you're walking down the town together with two bumps.

Sharing the same experience has brought Naomi

and her mum closer together.

Yeah, I was 14 when I lost my virginity.

How old was you, Mum?

I was virtually 16, two month off.

Yeah, still underage.

Only by two month. I weren't two years out.

All right, chill out!

-I was in a relationship and I loved him at the time.

-You still do.

How many people have you slept with?

-Five.

-Five?!

(Slag.)

Get lost!

Is that every one of our dads?

Excuse me, I've only got three dads!

Only!

I wouldn't like to have loads of children, like my mum.

I do see how my mum sometimes struggles with all her kids

and being on her own doing it,

so it makes me think I don't want to be in that position.

When Leo was a few months old, Naomi moved into her own place.

Despite being only 16,

she has clear ideas on how to run her home.

At my mum's house, nothing was ever in its place.

It was just, like, wherever people just left it

and it irritated me.

So I've always said, when I get my own house,

nothing's going to be like that.

So this is basically what I do every day for ages.

Just clean.

I don't know where she's got the tidiness from and the organisation,

because none of us in our house are like that.

It's just Naomi.

Naomi's so house-proud, she struggles to cope with visitors.

Especially her family.

I'm not used to having them round here,

cos I never really invite them up.

They make too much mess!

Look what your children have done to my floor!

Yuck!

Not only is Naomi on top of keeping her house clean,

she's cooking for eight.

Yeah, it's hot.

-Ten out of ten!

-Thank you.

Why is there mashed potato all over my sofa arm

-and sweetcorn in my rug?

-It wasn't me.

It's all over your arm as well, so it is you.

Yeah, I think I am OCD. Do you agree with me?

It's got to be perfect.

In Plymouth, Amy's mum has banned Petrit from the house.

I can't see Amy and Jacob.

Every time I do see them, I have to stay outside

on the doorstep

and speak to them and hold Jacob for five, ten minutes

and that's it.

But Petrit is not giving up on getting Amy back.

I just want you to give me that last chance.

-Do you?

-Yes.

-Really?

-Really badly.

-How much?

-So much!

-Please?

-Right, so if I said to you

-we'll get back together.

-Right.

And then I'll give you, like, a week and a half.

-A week and a half for what?

-You can prove yourself to me.

-Turn up on time, don't let me down.

-Right.

Don't cheat on me again. Just don't mess me about.

I'll prove you wrong and all your family wrong.

-You've said that so many times.

-Yes, I know I have!

but I actually will do it.

I've changed.

Don't tell anybody, Petrit.

Bye.

-I love you.

-I love you, too.

Yeah, I'm just chuffed to bits now I'm back with her.

That's it. I hopes I just stick to it.

If my mum found out I'm seeing Petrit again,

I think hell would break loose.

We'll see how far it goes, eh?

Fingers crossed.

The relationship is back on and Amy wants to live with Jacob

and Petrit as a proper family unit.

I want my own place because I'm fed up of Mum nagging.

Yeah, but you give her reasons to nag.

Yeah, but I want to be able to, like,

do my own thing and I want Petrit to be able to come in.

Amy's 18-year-old sister Tia

is also a teen mum and rents her own flat nearby.

I don't honestly think you'd cope

-all, like, living alone.

-I do think I'll cope.

I think it'll be fun.

But it's not fun.

I hate it.

I thought I'd cope and I've felt more homesick

the longer I've lived away from my mum and everybody.

I could quite easily come back home.

I don't think you're moving out for the right reasons.

You think people are nagging at you? Not good enough.

Yeah, but I would rather move out

that sat on the doorstep all the time with Petrit or go out.

It's not fair, T.

He only bothers when he can be bothered to.

I'm trying to explain how we struggle with money

and you've got to budget,

and she's speaking to me as if it's easy.

'I don't think she's ready to move out yet.'

She can't even look after herself here, financially.

You know? Some weeks, she doesn't even have money for milk for Jacob.

Sometimes I go to bed and cry on the phone

to Mum, because I want to come home.

Honest to god.

SHE SOBS

You're just doing it so you can get away from everybody

and everything, just so that you can do what you want to do.

You're not thinking of the financial side. I had nothing.

I got a bit upset.

She doesn't understand how hard it is at a young age.

I think she'll struggle, because she relies on everybody.

If I was an older mum, they wouldn't stick their nose in as much.

I feel as though they'd just leave us to what we're doing.

In Derbyshire, 16-year-old Naomi does have her own house

and is struggling to make ends meet.

Yeah, after bills and paying my food shopping off

and nappies and stuff for Leo,

it does work out I have about £10 to £15 left,

for that week.

It's all new to me, doing this. I think I've done

quite well so far, though. I've not missed any payments on my bills.

This chart is, like...

when I pay my bills. When I've paid them, I colour it off.

Which I need to do now, actually.

It's just my way of being organised.

Living off benefits makes me feel, like, cheeky.

I'm not really doing anything apart from looking after Leo,

and I'm just getting money for doing it.

I do feel cheeky, doing that,

but it's the only way I can support Leo at the minute.

Naomi may be taking a grown-up approach to her finances,

but mum Claire is concerned that she's taking life too seriously.

You're young. You want to go out there and have a laugh.

You don't want to grow up too much.

You want to live that young life.

Go out with your mates and be silly.

'I wish she'd go out at least twice a week with her friends,'

but she doesn't like doing it. She's very clingy with him.

When I do go out with my friends, it's like there's something missing.

Sometimes, I just don't want to go out.

I know, but you'll get over that eventually.

Yeah, I know, but half the time,

they're talking about college and school.

It's like I've not been doing anything

apart from looking after Leo.

If I really, really wanted to go out, though,

I would, but it's just sometimes I don't want to. I can't be bothered.

But you'll feel better for it, getting out.

Naomi's conversation with her mum

has made her think about her life before Leo.

At school, I was basically just a typical teenager.

Doing what they want, when they want, going out to parties.

It changed quite a lot when I had Leo.

I do miss being a teenager.

I didn't have to care about anything then, but now I do.

It's a big shock, not seeing them every day

and going out with them every weekend.

I do get lonely sometimes, being in the house on my own

with just Leo, because he doesn't speak.

It's difficult as well,

not being able to enjoy your teenage years.

But it's my mistake, a good mistake.

I'm happy.

GENTLE SNORING

But it's not only her friends that Naomi would like to see more of.

I'm texting Leo's dad.

Asking him when he's next here.

I'm just saying...

"When are you next coming down? Leo wants to see you."

Leo's dad visits him once a week.

But for Naomi, that's not enough.

It makes me feel like I'm on my own with everything.

I do hate the fact that he can go out when he wants,

he can do what he wants.

He can have time off from Leo. I can't do that.

It should be both of our responsibilities,

but he just sees it as mine.

She's got to understand he works and he's going to be tired.

I think Naomi doesn't understand that yet.

She's never been to work full-time.

I think there's quite a bit of bitterness there at the moment,

because I think Naomi still loves him to bits

and hopes they'll get back together.

But of course, she's only 16. They think differently.

You know, first love and she thinks it's going to last.

Get your leggies dry.

In Plymouth, Amy thinks her relationship with Petrit

is still a secret.

I've seen the two of them together,

kissing and stuff. Yeah, they are back together.

Obviously, no-one's happy, but it's their life.

But trust is still an issue.

-You believe that?!

-Well, you probably (BLEEP) did.

-Amy, that's it. It's over.

-What do you mean it's over?

-I'm not handling it. You'd rather believe some

-BLEEP,

-right?

-Rather than believe your own

-BLEEP

-boyfriend.

-That's what I mean. You always believe them!

-Just wait a minute.

What, so you're just going to leave me?

Huh?

They'll never be good for each other.

You know, it's such a volatile relationship they've got.

It's not fair on Jacob.

If they were honest with each other, they shouldn't be together.

But they may not be together much longer.

Petrit is awaiting trial in court

and if found guilty, could be sent to prison.

Petrit's been in trouble in the past.

He has got a court case and there is a chance

that he's going to get sent to prison.

You know I can get sent down for this?

-Yeah?

-Just letting you know.

-You'll be all right.

If I get two years,

I do half of that on good behaviour. I get 12 months and that's a year.

That's not seeing Jacob for a year, or you.

-How do you feel about that?

-Bad.

I just don't want to go down, Amy.

I really don't.

That's the worst thing that could happen, man.

-I'd wait for you.

-Would you?

That's sweet.

Just don't pick up the soap.

It's Jacob's first birthday and Petrit

is allowed in the house for the day.

There's no sign of him yet.

We've got a bet on, whether or not he turns up.

If Petrit don't turn up, then I know he ain't bothered about his son.

You know, because he's got nothing else to do today, so...

Petrit is over an hour late.

# Happy birthday to you

# Happy birthday dear Jacob

# Happy birthday to you. #

Yeah!

CLAPPING AND CHEERING

The party is over and Petrit never turned up.

I've never felt this angry before in my life with him.

No more chances any more.

Now I just know that he don't care about him.

I was planning to find somewhere else to live

and everything else, and it's just...

Everything I do for him, he just throws it back in my face.

I just can't do it any more.

I'm going to wait until I move out

Sort myself out first.

In Derbyshire, Leo is now six months old

and there have been changes for Naomi.

I feel like I'm being myself again.

Like losing weight and dying my hair a different colour.

Just acting my age, really.

And she's no longer a single mum.

Me and Leo's dad have got back together

and we're trying to make it work,

so we can be a proper family.

'It's going well so far. We've not had any arguments yet.'

Mardy! Mardy!

Who's that?

Naomi talks to her mum about her relationship with Leo's dad.

-You've just got to stop being bossy.

-I don't want to be a single mum.

No, I don't want you to be a single mum neither.

-So I am going to actually try.

-I know it's hard.

-Think of Leo and you.

-We're doing all right at the minute, though.

We've not had any fall-outs yet.

I think that's why we're getting on at the minute.

We're not seeing each other all the time, like we used to.

Never know. Five years time, you could get married.

When I was little, my mum and dad were together, like, on and off.

I just want Leo to have us both in his life, all the time.

If it doesn't work with me and Leo's dad,

then at least when Leo's older, I can say we tried.

Naomi's love life may be working out,

but mum Claire is still concerned

that she's missing out on teenage fun.

I'm babysitting for you.

You're going out.

I'm kidnapping your son for a couple of hours.

-I'll sleep.

-No, you can't sleep.

You have to go out with your mates.

-I feel bad leaving him.

-You're all right.

We're here to help. You'll end up Billy No-mates,

the way you're going.

-I don't think he'll sleep until about seven-ish.

-Sound.

But if he does, just stick him in his pushchair.

-See you later, Mum.

-See you later, duck. Have a good time.

-Yeah.

-Don't do anything I wouldn't do.

-Like what?

-Pig out too much.

Get pregnant?

Mum Claire's finally persuaded Naomi

to go out with her old school friends,

Hayley, Keeley and Cassie.

I find it easy talking to you lot.

You've got a baby on the way, you've got a baby...

You ARE a baby.

LAUGHTER

It's been nice just to get away from him for a while.

And be a teenager again.

Do you ever find yourself getting really upset when he's not around?

I have done before, yeah. But that's why I...

Now you can just let your hair down and be your age...

For a few hours.

For a few hours. It's really good.

Since you've had a baby, you've been really busy.

It's nice you can just be a normal teenager

-and hang out with your mates.

-Oh, thanks.

I've really enjoyed it.

My mum was right, making me come out.

Hopefully I'll keep coming out more often.

-See you later.

-Come on, it's going to go without you!

-Bye!

Bye!

I'm glad you had a good time.

Thanks for watching him.

-See you later, Mum.

-See you, darling.

-Thank you.

It's not easy, having a baby at a young age.

But I'm trying my best and I'm going to try

and give him a good future.

Hopefully myself a good future, too.

I start college in a few months.

Hopefully, like, in the future,

when Leo's a bit older, hopefully, I'll have a job

and we can get our own house together and be a proper family.

Hopefully, it'll work out.

It's been four weeks since Jacob's party

and Amy's relationship is back on.

But Petrit is in prison.

After breaching his bail conditions,

he must await his trial in custody.

And there could be another problem.

I've been really worried,

because I haven't had a proper period in two months.

But I will admit that...

..me and Petrit have slept together a lot, without using anything.

If I was pregnant, I'd poo myself.

Because my mum would...

..not want me here.

Amy is breaking the news to her mum and sister Tia.

Are you an idiot?

You are so stupid, Amy!

I'm going to go and get a test.

Mistakes happen, right?

MUM SNORTS

-It's a mistake?!

-Well, not really.

I wouldn't mind having another baby.

You don't even know how to spell some words.

You need to go back to school.

'I think if Amy did have another baby, it would be a disaster.'

I don't know whether it's just like a toy to her.

You know, the fun of having a baby. I really don't understand her.

Amy is taking a pregnancy test.

I wouldn't say I'm trying.

It's like, if I fall pregnant, I fall pregnant.

If I don't, I don't. It don't bother me any way.

If Amy's pregnant, I'll kill her.

-Have you done it?

-Yeah, I just put it on the ledge.

You wanting another baby to keep hold of Petrit?

No.

I'll kill Amy if she is.

I swear to God.

-Negative.

-Are you happy?

-Not really.

-Yeah, right(!)

I think Amy just hasn't got her head screwed on.

She'd never, ever cope with two babies.

Never.

Right, I have a letter off Petrit.

Oh! It's good because he said baby girl.

GIGGLING

"To my baby girl. Hope you're OK, honey. How's JJ?

"I'm OK, I guess. I just don't know what to say.

"I'm so lost in here and want you to be with you, babe.

"Can you marry me?" With a smiley face.

"You and me and JJ. I want you for life, babe."

And then loads of kisses.

Oh, I'm going to cry!

But if found guilty, Petrit could be

in prison for up to two years.

If Petrit does get sent down

to prison properly,

I would still stay with him.

I'll wait till he gets out, even if it's two years.

It would have a huge impact on their relationship,

because...

Amy's not one for waiting around.

She gets very bored.

To be honest, I really do not give a poo anymore...

..what his family says or what my family says.

I've just had enough of it, I'll do what I want.

You know, I want to get married to him, have more kids with him.

I want him to stay with me till I die.

Next time, we meet 16-year-old Toni from Farnborough.

Sometimes I feel like I've stolen her from the hospital.

-I feel dead!

-Stop burning the candle at both ends

and start becoming a mother and staying in.

I'm a teenager, Mum. What do you expect?

And Bobbi from Newcastle.

I'm really scared.

Mam, I can't do it!

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