Barbados The World's Strictest Parents

Around the world, many parents raise their kids on a diet of strict discipline...

It's our responsibility as parents to be in control of the music that

they listen to, the movies they watch, and the friends they have.

-Rub, rub, rub.

-..rigid boundaries...

Am I friends with my children?

No. I'm not your friend, I'm your parent.

..and the meaning of consequences.

My dad is really strict.

Phew, if you break the rules, he can be very scary.

But can traditional parenting change the lives of rebellious British teenagers?

I was brought here,

on this Earth, to party.

She can be an absolute nightmare. It's awful.

My lifestyle is playing Xbox and getting hammered.

You, I'm getting you! I went to anger management.

Got kicked out of anger management for being angry.

No-one can tell me what to do.

Not even the Queen of England can tell me what to do.

He's slapped me, he's poked me, he's pushed me. He's done it all.

I am what I am. If you don't like it, then jog on.

To find out, two teens who've never met before will leave their fraught families behind.

-Maybe she'll come back home and be nice.

-Doubt it.

And head off to the far corners of the world,

where they will live according to strict rules imposed by new parents.

You are not in the UK, you are in Barbados.

They are the most awful people I've ever met in my whole life.

If she wants to throw a hissy fit, she can have her hissy fit.

-I'm going home, bruv.

-What are you going to do?

This is our rule. If you're going to cop an attitude about it, forget it.

-What's the point?

-It's a matter of trust!

If this is how they are, I'm sorry for Britain.

I'm waiting for you to give me money so I can get ready to go.

"Mum, can I borrow some money," you really should say, shouldn't you?

-Are you going to give it me back?

-Yes, I will.

-When?

When I get a job. I'll give you all your money back when I get a job.

17-year-old Nicole Benham thinks the world owes her a living.

-No cigarettes.

-Yes, fine!

Don't snatch, Nicole, for God's sake.

'She's lazy. She's obnoxious.'

She's just turned into a brat.

She should give me more money, because I do live quite an extravagant lifestyle.

That's her job, she's meant to fund what I do.

I love Champagne.

I like finer restaurants as well.

Snails and...

gnocchi and stuff like that. I have acquired taste.

Nicole has never lived with her father. Her parents separated before she was born.

I don't know much about my dad, and where he's from. I don't see him much, I don't want to see him.

Mum was only 18 when she had Nicole, and struggled to bring her up.

From nine-months-old, Nicole was raised by her grandparents.

She was a happy, happy-go-lucky little girl.

She was just a joy to have.

This one of Nicole was when she went to boarding school.

I think this was just before she went off the rails.

But growing up as a mixed-race child in rural Devon, she often felt the odd one out.

That's Nicole.

There was only about 100 people in her primary school, and there were no coloured children at all there.

We need glasses.

-Cheers, girl.

-Mum!

-Need another cup.

-'It's been a nightmare, you know?'

An absolute nightmare. Our health has suffered because of it.

'She's just so lazy.

'She won't get up, she's smoking.

'I don't know if she's doing drugs.'

She just rebels against anything.

-Bye!

-Bye, Chrissie!

I'm going to be sick!

-You just don't care, do you?

-Not really.

-BLEEP

-off, Mum, seriously. You're pissing me off.

She's destroying me. She's destroyed my parents.

I find it terribly upsetting.

She's really got to grow up and realise,

what you put in, you get out.

And she's not putting stuff in at the moment.

-What are you doing later on today, love?

-I don't know.

-What d'you mean, "don't know?"

-Can you shut up? I'm trying to play.

Only three things are important to 16-year-old Nathan Ballance.

My lifestyle is playing Xbox, getting hammered and having sex.

Nathan is not a little shit, he's a big shit.

But a very charming big shit, at the best of times.

I've slept with about 24 people and that's what I tell to the lads.

But if I'm talking to the lasses, I tell them about five. It makes me sound like less of a slag.

-All in all, he's a spoilt little

-BLEEP.

-Sponging off everybody.

Nathan was kicked out of school without a single GCSE, but life's never been better.

I don't really see the point in getting a job, because if

you want to enjoy your life, there's no point in getting one.

I work anything from 30 to 40 hours a week and I come in, and I still have to cook. I still have to clean.

'Because he does absolutely nothing.'

-Used wrappers?

-Used wrappers, not condoms. Just the wrappers.

No, I actually used a piece of tissue and picked them up and put them in the bin for you.

Nathan's parents split up when he was four.

He rarely sees his dad, so mum has to deal with his angry outbursts alone.

-Mucky sock, mucky underwear.

-BLEEP

-you!

If I'm not in a good mood, yeah, I am very aggressive.

He'll tell me how much he hates me, how useless I am, how it's all my fault.

I've had enough of holes in the walls and knife marks through doors.

I've had enough of it.

'I'm very scared when he gets in a bad temper.'

-Go on, Nathan, you can get up and get out of the way.

-Oh, shut up,

-BLEEP

-you.

I don't know what he's capable of. Sometimes I've thought he would hit me.

As it stands at the moment, Nathan's future holds absolutely nothing.

To try and get their lives back on track, both teenagers have agreed

to spend a week living with some of the world's strictest parents.

-Right, then.

-See you.

-See you in a few days.

-Don't give them any harder time than you give me.

-I won't.

-All right.

Enjoy yourself. See you later.

I'm hoping Nathan comes back as a different person because

he needs to for his own self being, to get off his backside and learn.

Give us a kiss. Don't be so bloody awkward! Give your sister a cuddle.

Please be good, Nicole. Promise me.

-Yep, see you later.

-See you later. Be good.

Loving child, isn't she?

-Maybe she'll come back and be nice, loving and...

-Doubt it.

I just hope she comes back and realises

what we do mean to her, not just

people she can use and abuse.

-Hi. I'm Nicole.

-I'm Nathan.

-Nice to meet you.

The teens are heading to Barbados.

An island paradise, and playground for millionaires and celebrities.

But here they will be staying with the Harris family.

Seven Day Adventists who live their lives by the letter of the Bible.

Mum Andrea is a primary school teacher, and dad Kenrick is an IT consultant.

We are a Christian-minded, Christian-oriented family.

God first, then you have family.

# All things bright and beautiful All creatures great and small... #

'We would describe ourselves as strict but fair parents.'

Our family believes in discipline,

we believe in our children trying to live to the highest of their potential.

The Harris approach to parenting has made eight-year-old Ashley and 16-year-old Kendria model daughters.

Number one discipline in the house is lashes.

When I lose my temper, a lot of things can happen!

My voice raises.

My body language is more in a fighting mode.

The children have been brought up to pull their weight in the family home.

I have to wash the dishes.

I wash the wheels...

Clean my bedroom, clean the windows.

Wash clothes, press...

-Clean the car.

-Sweep the house.

Mop. That's all.

After a long flight the teens finally arrive in the Caribbean.

I would like to have a cigarette now after 12 hours of not having one.

Barbados is a former British colony and its laws are based on our own.

You have to be 18 to drink or smoke.

There's a Heineken shop!

Can we get out here, please? Please, please.

The temptation proves irresistible.

I just wanted a nice cold beer and a cigarette for the road.

So I've got that.

I've got another 20 cigs in my bag, I just bought a pack of 20 and two pouches of baccy.

I'm putting up with a strict family

so I'm going to have to smoke like a double the amount just to put up with them.

It looks like shacks, like beach shacks.

It's not that I expected. I expected nice like Sandals hotels and stuff.

From the moment the teens arrive they will be subject to the same strict rules as the Harris children.

Come on in, welcome.

-Would you like a hand?

-Yes, please, thank you.

Hi. I'm Andrea.

Hi, Andrea, I'm Nicole.

-I'm Nathan.

-Nice to meet you.

It's late, so the Harrises' plan is to get the teens tucked up in bed as quickly as possible.

For tonight, just to let you all know, there is no smoking...

So if you have any cigarettes you have to hand them over now.

I'm sorry, but that's not going to happen.

-I can't go eight days without smoking.

-Nathan...

-Well, Nathan...

-That's not going to happen. It's my choice to smoke.

Nathan, you will go eight days without smoking.

Nathan, if you don't hand over the cigarettes right now you can take your journey back through the door.

Lovely. Thank you.

I ain't stopping smoking.

That's being disrespectful. Yes, Nicole?

I don't have any cigarettes on me.

Do you have any alcohol, do you have any drugs on you?

No, I don't have any intoxicating substances on me.

OK, so if we find out you're telling lies you are going to be in trouble

because I did not expect this night to start like this.

For Nathan, the Harrises' tough stance is unsettling.

I'm pretty surprised, to be fair.

I'm willing to just smoke what I've got on me, they'll be gone by the end of tomorrow, easily,

then I'm willing not to buy any more,

and give it a try. Sort of.

Just as he would at home, at Nathan wants to argue his way around the rules.

Now let me find out, you're going to hand over the cigarettes.

I've made a very good compromise that's fair on both of us.

I'll smoke what I've got left, all I've got left is half a packet in my pocket.

We will go with what we want and right now

the situation is we have decided there will be no more smoking.

Well, I'm sorry, I am 16, I'm legally classed an adult, I am old enough...

You are not in the UK, you're in Barbados!

And you are an adult at 18 years old, my man, not at 16!

So you don't tell me nothing that you are legally an adult, you're not an adult here!

You've been to school, haven't you? I don't know.

Everyone knows about...

I can't remember his name now.

The guy who did "I have a dream," the speech.

ANDREA: Mmm-hmm. Martin Luther King.

He stood up for human rights, your human right...

Nathan, you are not... You are talking out of turn.

You will have a human right when you get back home, but not here.

-You have human rights all over the world.

-Nathan, I finish. I am finished.

Done, excuse me.

-This discussion don't finish in five minutes, you go in your bed.

-OK.

Right, so you watch the clock. OK? Good.

-NATHAN:

-I can't be arsed with this shit.

ANDREA: Nathan, watch the language.

ANDREA: 'I figured there was going to be some strangeness tonight but not as far as this.'

He is not even trying to comply.

If I back down now, my children lose respect for me.

Until Nathan accepts the rules, the Harrises won't have him under their roof.

He will spend the night in a local motel to consider his options.

No-one has ever refused to back down against me, so I was being stubborn basically and not budging.

It's a change...

A very shocking change.

Hello? Good morning.

Nicole.

Time to get up.

In the Harris household, every day begins at dawn.

After his night in a motel, Nathan has come to a decision.

Good morning, Nathan. It is nice to see you.

How was your rest last night? OK, Nathan, remember last night

we talked about the cigarettes. So you have to hand over all of them.

'I thought about it last night and I might as well see what sort of people they are.'

I am willing to abide by their rules, see what it is like living as a teenager over here.

The Bible preaches "honour thy mother and father."

Nathan and Nicole, you can come through that door, please.

To avoid any confusion, the Harrises have spelt out exactly what that means in black and white.

Well, good morning once again and welcome to our home.

What these are are rules of love. These are the kind of things

that we expect from young persons growing up.

They are going to give you some kind of control as you go forward in life,

because in life there are rules that we have to live by each and every single day.

There you go, Nicole.

There you go, Nathan.

Before we go any further, do you have any other cigarettes or tobacco

that you have not handed over to us?

No. I gave you all I've got.

We are going to accept that for now.

We are a strictly religious family and we will not tolerate people taking the Lord's name in vain.

No unruly behaviour.

This includes no slamming of doors, no raising of voices.

No illegal drugs of any type, none.

Whether it be snorting, smoking, nothing.

No sexual activity except between married consenting adults.

That's only the two of us, in this case, no-one else.

So no sneaking into each other's room.

If you break these rules, punishment will include any combination of the following -

going to bed early, removal of privileges, additional chores, scolding.

-Ultimately, as parents we have full authority.

-OK.

The Harrises want to seal the deal with a prayer.

Dear eternal God in Heaven, we thank you, dear Jesus, for just being with us this morning.

You will bless these young people in our midst, you will help us be a guidance to them.

'I think they're actual, like, psychopaths.'

They don't understand what normal people are like.

It is a bit of a shock to us because that sort of thing would never happen with my parents.

It's just a completely new experience.

I've got all my contraband in my bra, basically, and it's just staying there.

Let's load up.

As fully fledged members of the Harris family,

the teens are joining Kenrick to help with the weekly family shop.

Disgusting.

It is? It's the smell of fresh fish.

It's disgusting, the smell is like actually sickening. It's just mad.

I don't even like fish, which is the funniest thing.

Thank you.

I'm just looking for somewhere to go for a smoke without the dad following us.

It's their first outing on the island and Kenrick wants to make sure they are safe at all times.

Do not move from here. I'll be right back.

But for the teens, a moment's freedom is too much to resist.

They head off for a crafty smoke.

The teens' disappearing act has alarmed Kenrick.

We're going to get in so much...

Nathan?

Nicole, Nathan, Nathan, Nicole, Nicole, come back.

Come back, Nicole!

Come back.

-Nicole, come here.

-I feel quite intimidated by you.

Maybe if you really felt intimidated you'd do as I say.

But I don't get the impression you really feel intimidated right now.

-OK.

-The first chance you got, you went and smoked.

Although you might not know I can see, I can see what you're doing.

-OK.

-I don't have eyes in the back of my head but I'm extremely observant.

Nicole. Nicole!

Nicole!

Excuse me one minute.

Could you please stop, I need to speak to you one minute.

Let me explain to you one more time.

I'm a bit annoyed at the whole situation so I really need to stop and think about it

as I drive back up the road as to what would be additional...

Hold on, hold on, there they go again.

Let me just go and find out where they're going again this time.

The teens finally stop running and daughter Kendria is not amused.

Right now I am really, really upset.

My parents will have no...

..hesitation flogging you, as he calls it.

Exactly. I'm not willing to just bend over

-and be like, "Come on, yeah, spank me, baby," for

-BLEEP

-sake. No.

I think you should go and find my father.

Apologise and let us go home and see what happens there.

OK, we're back.

Kenrick has called ahead to tell his wife about the teens' behaviour.

Andrea is determined to get to the bottom of what has gone on.

It seems to be that somebody here did something.

I want to hear your side of the story, Nicole.

-I can't remember.

-No, hello, hello!

-Hi!

-Don't go there with me.

You did something, 'fess up.

We discussed this this morning.

Nathan, what went on? I want to hear your part of the story.

We smoked and sat on the beach.

You told Mr Harris you was going for a smoke or something, you just walked away?

-We just walked off.

-You just walked off? I can't trust the two of you to go anywhere together

because it seems somebody is a bad influence on somebody else.

Let me talk to you woman to woman, because you is a woman.

Andrea is accustomed to her children listening respectfully during a scolding.

I want you to look at me because you must look at me. You know why?

Listen to hear why you must, don't give me that talk.

I don't look at anyone when I speak to them, I'm not going to look at you.

Even if you don't look now you're going to look eventually, you know why?

Because you want to be treated as a woman.

"Look at me, world, I'm 17!

"I can smoke, I can drink, I can do what I want!"

But still you cannot take no advice from nobody.

You only act tough but you ain't tough.

I don't act tough at all.

Yes, you do, you are very mouthy... shut up, I'm not finished, when I'm done you will have time to talk.

-Don't tell me to shut up.

-I will say shut up, so shut up, because I told you already this morning...

-Get the...

-I told you this morning!

-BLEEP

-off,

-BLEEP

-you! Seriously. Get off me!

You are a woman, stand your ground, you're cussing me, stand your ground!

Stand your ground!

You is a woman, stand your ground!

You're not a woman, you are a child!

You don't even know how to behave.

-Nicole?

-She's a baby.

I'm not going to stand there and argue with that psychotic bitch.

-Seriously. What the

-BLEEP

-wrong with her.

-I think she's mentally ill, seriously. She must be.

-BLEEP.

I am not so big a person that if she talks to me I can't apologise for something.

If she thinks I need to apologise, I will hear her out.

But if she is a woman she needs to come back and we need to talk about this and she needs to apologise.

As a stand off develops, Kenrick is getting the measure of Nicole's behaviour.

There is something definitely wrong there where she runs each and every time somebody stands up to her.

When Andrea leaves to take Kendria to music school, Nicole dares to return to the house.

-Nicole.

-Hi.

-Welcome back.

-Thank you.

Is there anything you want to say?

-Nothing at all?

-No.

I am very nervous about Andrea's return.

I don't know how to carry myself when she's around.

I just don't know what to do.

Good evening.

Yes, ma'am, Miss Nicole?

You ready to talk now?

Come this way.

Now, Nicole, I am not pleased with your attitude, I am not pleased with it at all.

I will apologise for coming in your face

but I will not apologise

for losing my temper and trying to speak to you.

I don't know you but I care about you. I can look at you and tell you so.

But you have to care about Nicole because I can care all I like, talk all I like,

it's not going to make a difference unless Nicole wants it to make a difference.

So again, the ball is in your court.

'I don't know how I'm going to cope for the rest of the week.'

What I do when things start getting heavy, because I don't like arguments,

I don't like confrontation, I just back off.

If I was at home, I'd go to my room or take the dog for a walk,

but here I can't do that because it's not my house.

Today has been a really hard day.

The family are just crazy, they really are.

It's really hard.

Nathan? Come on, time to rise and shine.

Move it.

For the Harris family, a good education is the foundation for a successful and happy life.

So today, Nicole and Nathan will be attending school.

What's the time?

5.30am? Seriously?

Six months ago, Nicole was expelled from a private boarding school,

whilst Nathan left school at 14 without a single qualification.

Don't laugh!

That's not going to stay.

Nicole, are you looking forward to going to school?

Yeah, I'm really looking forward to going to school.

The teens are heading to Harrison College, one of the most

prestigious schools on the island, having produced five out of the six previous prime ministers.

The headmaster is Winston Crichlow who attributes much of his success to firm discipline.

We do have corporal punishment still on the statute books.

There are many other measures that we take

to ensure our students are well-disciplined.

For Kenrick, the teens' behaviour will be a matter of great personal pride.

Nathan, you're attending my old school, Harrison College.

I spent many good years here, didn't give too much trouble

and I will expect the same thing from you both today.

Remember, there may be a temptation here and there.

Some cigarettes or whatever knocking around.

I will be seeing you again this afternoon and I am expecting a good report.

-Have a good day.

-Thank you.

-OK, then. Bye-bye.

While Barbados has a state school system, Harrison College is like

the Eton of the island, attended by the most privileged pupils.

In honour of their British guests, the school have arranged a welcoming committee.

I want welcome both of you to Harrison College.

We are very firm on discipline.

We expect you to fall in line.

Rule number one is very important in our school, a breach of common sense is a breach of the school rules.

If you do something silly or stupid, you will be punished.

For the young lady, are you wearing eye make-up?

-Yes.

-You have to wash it off. We don't allow make-up here at school.

We are glad to have you and hope you enjoy your time here.

-They can

-BLEEP

-off because I am not staying here.

Not if I have to take my make-up off. No. I'm running away. I'm being serious.

I am not doing that because I am not myself when I haven't got make-up on. They can bugger off.

Their first class is taught by the appropriately-named Miss Lashley.

OK, welcome to our class. This is English literature

and we are happy to have you and eager to hear what you say about yourselves.

Hi, I am Nicole.

I am from England and I don't go to school because I have been kicked out of three schools.

Yeah.

I'm Nathan, I am from the UK, too. I left school when I was 14 now I am not doing owt.

Any questions?

What are your hobbies?

Go drinking, take drugs and sleep all day.

That's what I do, honestly, that's what I do in England is nothing.

So, you mean like, marijuana or cocaine, or...

That's a good question.

There's marijuana, coke, crack, ecstasy, speed.

Anything you can get your hands on.

Anything you can get.

It's kind of scary knowing that you are at the same age as us and you've been doing drugs for so long.

We would never even imagine doing this stuff on a daily basis. It's just wrong!

I thought it was pure rubbish. I find it lazy and a lack of direction

and lack of respect altogether for

your parents, your friends, all those who are close to you.

-Yeah.

-Make some room for Nathan and Nicole in the class because I want

to set some work I think is important coming out of our discussions so far.

Everybody is going to do this and it is going to be read out in class.

You are writing on mistakes you have made in your life.

The lessons you have learned so far.

This gives everybody a chance to reflect.

It's only the first class of the day and Nathan has already given up.

Back in the UK, you will never find kids like these.

Everybody cares about having fun and enjoying theirselves, really.

It makes me feel like I am a piece of shit on someone's shoe.

They are all so determined to do well in their life.

At Harrison College, appearances are important.

Nicole is pulled up for a second time.

Show her the bathroom so she can remove this make-up from her face.

If you look, you'll see my students are not wearing make-up. We don't allow it here.

I'm going.

Unwilling to toe the line, Nicole does what she does best.

And Nathan is happy to run alongside her.

Nathan!

I'm not bending over and taking it up the arse, like these kids.

The first lesson we had today, every other lesson is going to be a repeat of the first lesson.

Us just sitting there, telling the kids what we're like,

and then basically getting abused by them for the next 30 minutes.

Hello, good afternoon. Is this Mr Harris?

We have a slight problem with the two young people.

They have gone off the compound, I don't know if you will be able to collect them.

With the teens loose on the streets, Kenrick is forced to leave work early.

That is them.

I can see them here now.

-Are you going back to school?

-We're walking up to the school, if that helps.

-Thank you.

Right now, what I'm really thinking,

is I would like to take the two of them and give both of them a hard slap around their heads.

My problem is I am not going to chase anyone around Barbados again.

I am sick and tired of it. To be told that students that I brought here

have been a disruption is really painful.

Hours later, an angry and humiliated Kenrick returns home.

We are going to have a discussion.

-Just drop it.

-No, I am not going to drop it.

Let me tell you why.

We have sacrificed so much for the two of you.

I am disappointed that both of you decided to leave the school compound.

You do not know the kind of things you could have put that school through.

But to have you having me walk all over the place up and down the street.

Going to some extremely dangerous areas where people could have killed one of us.

If you were my children, I would grab you by the collar and pulled

you into the car and then I would have thrown some licks at you.

A lot of those same children, their families are friends of mine.

Those same teachers went to school with me.

Some of those same teachers taught me and I have respect for those people.

But the two of you are not showing any respect for us.

If you both don't appreciate it, leave this house.

-I am going to walk away now.

-Oh, shit!

This be somebody trying to talk some sense into you.

But do as you're accustomed to do.

You and Nicole run away. You cannot run away from life. Remember that.

BLEEP.

Three hours later, Kendria attempts to break the deadlock.

OK, I have something to say. You may not like it too much,

you may not like me either, but you need to go inside

and sincerely apologise.

Nicole, you need to stop acting like two-year-old.

-You're getting all shitty though, aren't you? Look at you, for

-BLEEP

-sake. Calm the

-BLEEP

-down. Seriously.

-You need to calm down.

-I am

-BLEEP

-Zen. I'm Zen.

If you think so, girl. My parents have been putting up with this.

Count to ten and speak to me when you are calm.

I am not willing to listen to this.

With no friends to turn to, and nowhere left to run, Nicole starts to feel sorry for herself.

I hate myself enough as it is, I don't need people telling me how shit I am.

I know it is me that causes this.

If I didn't do the things I did, things wouldn't happen.

Dragging Nathan along after her, Nicole makes a chance discovery.

Gin, rum or vodka?

What shall we go for?

How much is a bottle of rum?

A small one. What size? Any of them.

This is like Christmas come early.

Cheers.

They came with one thing in mind, that is to try to get through this week if possible.

They did not come to change.

But they will have regrets about a lot things in their life

that could have been so much different if they would listen and learn.

Instead of bringing comfort, the drink has only made Nicole feel more miserable.

Her thoughts turn to her life at home.

I have had a couple of hours away from them.

It made me think about my actions as a whole, not just this instant but as a whole

and how much regret and sorrow and guilt I feel.

It has got to stop now.

It's going to continue if I don't stop and make a change, basically.

I really am sorry

for what I've done.

I am just pushing away and if I carry on pushing away I will have nothing left any more.

I am sincerely sorry about it.

You want to say something?

Nicole, we have heard you. We accept your apology.

We are willing to welcome you back in our home tonight, OK?

-All right.

-I am sorry.

I really am. Thank you so much.

Whilst the Harrises are always prepared to forgive and forget, for Nathan an apology is a step too far.

I think if I went in and apologised, they would probably take us back but

it wouldn't be the same. It would be like the first few days again

where you didn't feel like part of the family and it would be horrible again.

Nathan spends the night outside sleeping on a nearby porch.

Good morning, Nicole.

Morning, Nicole. Time to wake up.

After another night away from the family home, Nathan has reached a decision.

I really want to go home now.

I want to be back with my family.

I have had enough here.

I really have.

I know it may be a stupid idea to go home when I've only been here three days but I've realised a lot

and it is the weather

and missing my family and friends, girlfriend.

I'm missing the stupid things in the UK.

But Kenrick has other ideas.

He's arranged for Nathan to spend the day working with his friend Orlando.

Orlando will be here to pick you up to take you off to work.

-We will go from there.

-I'm going home, that's it.

We'll see what happens.

-Orlando will be here for you.

-I am not going to work, I'm going home.

-Nathan!

-Just

-BLEEP

-off!

With no dad at home, Nathan is not used to a man telling him what to do.

Do you know Jack shit about me?

-No, you

-BLEEP

-don't.

And Kenrick's persistence provokes the angry temper his mother is so frightened of.

He's pissing me off.

Nathan!

I just need to calm down.

-Seriously, if you want me to calm down, just

-BLEEP

-off and leave me alone.

-Nathan...

-No, listen. If you want me to calm down,

-BLEEP

-off.

-One of the rules we have, watch your language.

-I don't give a

-BLEEP

-any more. I don't give a

-BLEEP

-about your rules!

-You have to.

-No, I don't.

What are you going to do, kick me out? Please, do it.

That's what you want me to do. It is not happening.

-I'm not listening to your

-BLEEP

-rules.

You still have to obey them.

-No, I don't.

-Yes, you do. I am not kicking you out.

You are staying in Barbados!

Kenrick leaves for work.

Exhausted, hungry and homesick, Nathan returns to the house...

-only to have Orlando arrive hot on his heels.

-Good morning.

Hopefully you'll be helping me with some work today, then?

I'm not going to work today because I cannot be bothered.

I can't work in this heat.

-Are you sure? You don't want to try it?

-I'm sure.

Let's say you come, just see what's happening.

And see how things are transformed.

-Let's go cos it's just short there. All right?

-All right.

With no fight left in him, Nathan is charmed off the sofa by Orlando's gentle approach.

Orlando gave up an office job he hated to follow a childhood dream

and start his own landscaping business.

And he's never looked back.

You see the tall grass?

Just push over it.

Those bits that are sticking out that you missed.

It's what I'm doing now.

Tell me something, have you done any work in the last two years or so?

-No, I haven't worked in the last two years.

-What you did in the last two years?

-Basically drunk, gone out with my mates...

-Pardon?

-Last two years, I've basically got drunk...

-Drunk?

Yes. Gone out with my mates and smoked spliffs.

-Smoke... That's marijuana?

-Yeah.

-And why would you smoke marijuana? And drink?

-I don't know, really. It was just something to do.

If I had the ability to give you some joints for the time you were here,

you feel like it'd encourage you to stay here and work with me?

No, because I'd just want to smoke the spliffs and sit down and chill-out for the rest of the day.

The notion of just wanting to smoke and chill, you know, is really a no-go because,

at the end of the day, you're here to be productive for yourself, your family.

And if there's one thing that I would want to leave, or one impression that I would want to leave with you

for this short time you spend with me, which I enjoyed tremendously, is that you be a positive influence,

firstly to yourself, and then to all of those around you who care for you, like your parents.

I don't think going back home would be the best thing for you.

Actually, it would be putting your right back in the position of what caused you to be here. Right?

So, I'm saying to you, your first test is not to leave Barbados.

It's to stay here for the next few days.

-God bless. Look after yourself, all the best when you go back, all right?

-Yes.

Orlando's calm advice has given Nathan a new perspective on his behaviour.

He wants to stay and see out the week.

But first, he has to face the Harrises.

I will apologise to them, but to be fair,

I don't regret sleeping under the stars because it gave me quite a bit of time to think and clear my head.

I'm not really one for saying sorry after big things like this.

I'll say sorry after the little things, just not really big things.

It's a bit of a challenge, really.

I'm sorry for last night, for being so disrespectful to you and all of yesterday.

I understand it was very wrong and very disrespectful.

Nathan, I really don't know what to say. Because...

we both held you in very high esteem.

I do not have a son. In Barbados, when you have sons, women idolise their sons.

So that is why I spent time talking. It hurts, Nathan.

It's not just that. I'm not sitting down here dramatising or nothing, it's hurting me.

-You are welcome back.

-Thank you.

Now, let me just ask, because I've not seen the number I've seen before.

Is this all that you have? Are there any more?

-No.

-You're certain?

-Yes.

OK.

Following Nathan's apology for his earlier outburst,

Kenrick thinks the time is right to deliver him a message from home.

Hi, Nathan. I have a letter from your mum.

-Cheers.

-There you go, for you to read.

"Hi, Nathan. Hope you're enjoying your experiences in Barbados.

"Over the last year, you've gotten a lot better with your anger issues but the ability to go backwards is still

"there and I still fear because, to be honest, you scared me at some stages.

"I thought you would lash out at me.

"It's not something to be proud of.

"It hurts. A lot."

"Needless to say, I miss you.

"Love you lots, Mum. See you soon."

It...

All the stuff that my mum is saying that when I used to have a real anger problem, it used to scare her.

I don't think I ever knew that.

It makes me feel shit.

It really does.

I'm very surprised you're actually here.

With both teens back in the fold, the Harrises decide a trip to the beach

will do everyone the world of good. Getting ready for the trip, Nicole puts on her usual layers of make-up.

But her look is about more than simple fashion.

I don't like the colour of my skin.

I don't like being dark. I just don't like it.

I just want to be a bit lighter.

Or just completely light and blonde.

I would say I feel more white, only because I have been brought up

in a white environment and not really subjected to black culture, in a way.

I just, I can't explain how I feel about it. I just hate it.

And I wish I could be lighter.

If I could, I would.

Since childhood, Nicole has always been unhappy being mixed race.

When Nicole was about, I suppose four or five, she was in the bath.

And her granddad said to her, "Nicole, what are you doing?"

And she had the scrubber, she was scrubbing.

And she said, "I want to be white like you, Granddad."

And this is what the trouble is.

She cannot see herself.

I don't like being mixed-race.

If I could change it, I would, like Michael Jackson.

That would make me very happy.

How embarrassing!

-Amazing?

-Yeah.

-Had a really good day?

-Yeah.

Because of all that has happened, right,

as things go well, we try to make sure that you understand that we will treat you well.

-Yeah, thank you.

-No problem.

The sea has washed away Nicole's make-up.

And Andrea notices a change in her mood.

Is it so bad that you don't have on mascara or make-up?

You don't think you're pretty?

Definitely not without make-up on, I look like shit. Oh, sorry, I look awful.

And you really don't need make-up all the time because you're a beautiful girl.

I realise your skin tone, you are mixed.

-So you don't like that part of you?

-No, hate it.

So you don't want no part of being black?

No.

You'd prefer to be totally white?

It's who you are, it's who make up you.

So you have to get a don't-carish attitude in a good sensible way about who Nicole is.

Nicole, you have to start from the very beginning. You have to start with say who Nicole is.

When you accept Nicole, you're going to realise out there is going to look at you different.

-You need to let go of stuff, though, Nicole.

-It's hard.

It's the hardest thing to do.

I have a better understanding of why certain things she does, behaves certain ways.

She doesn't feel she's pretty.

And she doesn't feel well. If you don't accept that you're black,

you can't accept your hips and your legs and your nose and the shape of your mouth.

Because our shape is different.

But all of these are just excuses.

If she accepts who she is, she would realise they're so many things she can do with herself.

To be honest, it's making sense, what she's saying. It's nice to...

it's actually nice to speak to someone for a change.

Yeah, I would like to start doing normal things, because the more I do,

it'll benefit not just me but my family as well, if I'm mature enough to cope with issues,

rather than just be an idiot about it,

and just take drugs and be reckless and irrational, and run off and stuff.

I'm more open to change now.

Impressed with the teens' change in attitude, the Harrises decide

it's time to send them back to school to complete their education.

Whilst Nicole knuckles down to her A-level English homework,

career-truant Nathan is catching up on his basic GCSE chat-up lines.

How many girlfriends have you had?

-Do you mean girlfriends, or how many people I've slept with?

-Slept with.

-About 52.

SHRIEKING

-What age did you lose your virginity at?

-12 or 13.

-12 or 13?

-Oh, God.

It's a good life.

You can't go wrong with it.

It does feel a lot more satisfying, in general, just actually not wasting the day.

Actually finding some things out about the culture and the teens over here

than just wandering the streets, basically.

Nicole has struggled all week to talk about her feelings.

Yes, Nicole. So, can you read what you wrote for us now?

Now she's expected to open up in front of the whole class.

"It is clear from the outset that my life has taken a turn for the worse.

"I've fallen down the path of destruction.

"I've had a privileged life.

"This turned me into an ungrateful, demanding, and very spoilt brat.

"I'm very close to losing all of my family simply because

"I fight against help, opportunities and change. I know that I am destructive. And...

"I may claim I don't care, but underneath my hard exterior

"is a lonely, vulnerable and extremely confused girl."

OK.

"That's why I've got to change, not just for me, for everyone.

"And in the future, I honestly don't care what I'm doing, or what I want to do, as long as

"I wake up in the morning and I can honestly say I'm happy with my life.

"Because I haven't been happy for a long time."

APPLAUSE

It hurts me that...

you as a person...

you realise now that what you're doing is self-destructive.

That what you're doing to yourself isn't healthy.

That's all I think.

The day has come for Nathan and Nicole to go home.

Yeah, I am going to miss the Harris family.

They have helped me a lot in the time I've been here with realising things back home, things I need to change,

ways that I need to change personally, and things like education and stuff like that.

They have helped a lot.

I think I'm much more well-rounded now.

I can see where I go wrong,

whereas I didn't before. I will miss the Harris family quite a lot.

And I'll just miss their, like, values, in a sense.

Have a safe flight home. I'm going to miss you.

All the best.

-Thank you for everything.

-My daughter, that don't like hugs.

Nicole is going back her grandparents,

who she hasn't seen for two months since they kicked her out.

-Hi.

-Hi, granddad.

I've missed you.

So, you've learnt a lot?

-She chased me down the street saying, "Be a woman, stand your ground."

-Exactly.

And I freaked out and run away.

I didn't know what to do. I thought she was going to hit me.

It doesn't matter. You can stand your ground, you shouldn't run away.

Stand your ground. And, you know, communicate, which is very important.

I have to prove that I want to change.

And I can't just sit here and say, you know, "I want to change, and this, and that."

I have to actually prove to you by doing stuff.

You can't just take, take, take.

You have to give back. And that's what I want to do.

You know, I want to not just enhance my life, but enhance yours as well.

She sounds positive. Very, very positive.

Hopefully, you know, it'll be an ongoing thing.

She said she's changed and she gave me a hug, which was...

It was just wonderful because she just don't...

She just don't hug you. Oh, that's lovely.

That was...that was nice, yes.

I hope Nathan on his trip has learned to appreciate what he has

got here at home, realising that not everybody has the privileges he has.

-Hiya.

-Hiya.

Oh. Come on in. Come on.

God. You are seriously going to piss yourselves laughing.

Oh, wow!

It's been an eye-opening experience, big time.

-I'm sorry for over the years just being basically a little

-BLEEP

-towards you.

Thank you very much.

I accept your apology.

Let's just hope things get better now.

And you sort yourself out.

Good to see you.

-It's good to be back.

-All right, then.

It's the first time he's ever apologised to me.

And he seems to be really positive about improving himself and everything.

So, yeah, I'm really chuffed. Proud of him.

Next time on World's Strictest Parents,

angry street fighter, Nicky.

-It's my life, I do what I want to do.

-And spray-tan waster Geri...

..get new parents in Sri Lanka.

-If you was my mum, I'd tell you to

-BLEEP

-off.

We don't tolerate that kind of language.

-When I walked in there and saw those people, I thought,

-"BLEEP

-this," and walked back out.

Oh, my God. You're in my ear at 5 o'clock in the morning.

If she cannot change her attitude, she doesn't come back into this house.

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