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Mae'r nifer o hunanladdiadau yng Nghymru ar gynnydd gyda thri chwarter o'r rhain wedi'u cyflawni gan ddynion. Heno, hanes dau deulu. The families of 2 men speak openly about the...


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-In 2015,

-there were 350 suicides in Wales.

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-274 were men.

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-This is the story of two.

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-For over 20 years, the

-Aberglaslyn Mountain Rescue Team...

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-..have served the mountains

-and hills of South Gwynedd.

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-I've been a member

-of this team since 2000.

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-I was a member of a neighbouring

-team for four years before that.

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-Dion Llwyd-Hopcroft from Harlech

-is one of the team's leaders.

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-Every Monday night,

-he organises training sessions...

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-..for the volunteer crew.

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-A lot of people ask us why we do it.

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-I love being out on the mountain.

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-It's nice giving something back

-to help people in trouble.

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-Rescuing walkers and climbers

-is only one part of the work.

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-The number of suicides they've seen

-is increasing.

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-In Wales, men are three times more

-likely to commit suicide than women.

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-Ready? Brace. Lift.

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-There's definitely a problem.

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-It's not just us, as a team.

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-I suspect that every team

-in North Wales sees the same thing.

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-It's happening more often now

-than ever before.

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-On February 29, 2016...

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-..Dion and the team searched

-for an 18-year-old man...

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-..who had gone missing.

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-His name was Josh Llwyd-Hopcroft,

-Dion's youngest son.

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-We were worried that he'd fallen

-and injured himself, you never know.

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-There was no sign of him

-and weather conditions were poor.

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-At 5.00am, there was no sign of him.

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-Obviously, I couldn't sleep.

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-I went out myself about 6.00am

-with the dogs.

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-I searched for two hours.

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-There was no sign of him.

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-I was pulled into

-a patch of forest by the dogs...

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-..and we found Josh's body.

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-That's when our lives changed

-for the worst.

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-Josh had hung himself.

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-Dion called a member of the mountain

-rescue team to guard the body...

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-..while he returned home

-to break the news to his family...

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-..Ceri, Sion and Shannon.

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-I returned to the scene with Sion.

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-We placed his body on a stretcher

-and brought him back here...

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-..for the final time.

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-I was determined to do

-something like that for him.

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-Josh used to attend Ysgol Ardudwy.

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-After his 18th birthday

-a month earlier...

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-..he'd considered joining the Army.

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-Josh was a boy

-who liked getting his own way.

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-He liked...

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-..spending time with his friends.

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-He seemed a happy boy.

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-We've looked back so many times.

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-There was nothing evident to us,

-as parents...

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-..that something was wrong.

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-According to his mother, Sue, Josh

-had a happy upbringing in Harlech.

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-He was a very popular boy.

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-Losing him so suddenly

-was a devastating blow for her.

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-Heart-breaking.

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-It's...

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-You never want to hear that your son

-has taken his own life.

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-There's not one day that goes by...

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-I do wish he was here.

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-When he went, he took a piece

-of my heart with him.

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-In Harlech train station,

-there's a memorial board to Josh.

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-# No more bad days

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-# It's clear from here #

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-On it, the title

-of one of his favourite songs...

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-..and messages from his family

-and friends.

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-There were 6,188 suicides

-in Britain in 2015.

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-4,622 were men.

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-74% of the total.

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-Stiwt Theatr,

-Rhosllannerchrugog, near Wrexham.

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-The building

-was constructed in 1926...

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-..funded by local miners.

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-The Stiwt means a lot

-to its general manager, Rhys Davies.

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-My parents performed here.

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-Most of the family.

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-The Stiwt is important to the people

-of Rhos and my family in particular.

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-After starting to perform

-on this stage...

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-..one of Rhys' older brothers

-built a professional career...

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-..as a singer, musician and actor.

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-He was a very interesting person.

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-He was a lot of fun,

-he'd make faces.

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-He made people laugh

-most of the time.

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-He was great as a brother,

-to be honest.

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-He was happy to be

-in a crowd of people...

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-..and people were happy

-to be with him too.

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-Dafydd Dafis

-was a familiar face on S4C.

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-He was renowned as a singer

-and saxophonist.

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-He acted in numerous

-popular TV dramas.

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-Wow.

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-Well done, Daf.

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-Over the past few years, acting

-and TV work had started to dry up.

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-He'd battled depression

-for many years.

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-In April 2017, he went missing.

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-He did go out sometimes

-and no-one really knew where he was.

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-He'd be out all night and no-one

-knew if he was with friends...

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-..or sleeping out in the open air.

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-I think he was, he did spend

-some nights in the open air.

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-He'd tried to take his own life

-once before.

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-In the past year,

-his brother had feared the worst.

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-A knock on the door in the middle

-of the night on Monday.

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-Two police officers

-standing at the door.

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-They said they'd found Dafydd.

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-That's how we heard about it.

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-Dafydd Dafis had hung himself.

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-He was 58 years old.

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-At the time, he lived in this house

-in Beaumaris, Anglesey.

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-The days of starring in Porthpenwaig

-and Rownd a Rownd had long gone.

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-He'd stopped performing

-and was making a living as a chef.

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-For his close friend,

-Rhys Parry Jones...

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-..seeing the change in him

-was heart-breaking.

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-Seeing Dafydd losing hope and losing

-interest in the things he loved.

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-Both mediums, music and acting.

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-It was horrible.

-It was horrible to see.

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-The actor's body was discovered

-by a security officer...

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-..near one of Bangor University's

-buildings in Menai Bridge.

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-Dafydd had definitely researched

-how he'd end his life.

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-Maybe he'd researched where,

-I'm not sure.

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-Somewhere he'd be left alone,

-oh, God.

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-He'd often walk in this area.

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-From Beaumaris,

-he'd walk four or five miles a day.

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-He didn't leave a note...

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-..but he left his passport

-so that he could be identified...

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-..and a newspaper article.

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-He kept an article

-from the Guardian.

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-A lady called Brampton who

-committed suicide when she was 60.

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-She wrote about depression in

-her memoirs "Shoot the Damn Dog."

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-"Killing oneself is,

-anyway, a misnomer.

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-"We don't kill ourselves.

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-"We are simply defeated by the

-long, hard struggle to stay alive."

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-That's the truth about Dafydd,

-without a doubt.

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-Are you still angry with Dafydd?

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-At the time, yes.

-I'm not angry now at all.

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-Not at all now.

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-No.

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-Everyone's just...

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-Everyone was just glad

-that they'd met him and knew him.

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-And... everyone...

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-..misses him.

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-There we go.

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-It's 5.00pm on a Friday.

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-Dion Llwyd-Hopcroft is about to

-set off from his home in Llanfair...

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-..on a walking trip.

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-Ceri wants a picture.

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-See you later.

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-With his friend, Kieron,

-he intends to walk all night...

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-..to raise awareness for a cause

-that's close to his heart.

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-We're walking from home,

-along the coastal path...

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-..heading northwards

-for 24 hours without a break.

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-We're raising money

-to fund a new project...

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-..in my son's name

-after we lost him last year.

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-Dion is a builder.

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-He will use the money he collects

-to build Josh's Tree House...

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-..which will provide a location

-for grieving people...

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-..to speak to

-experienced counsellors.

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-I don't think there's enough help

-out there for people...

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-..who suffer with mental illness

-or who've lost someone.

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-Losing someone is a major event.

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-I'd never realised the importance

-of having the support...

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-..of family and friends and

-information about coping with loss.

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-I want to give something back

-to the people who helped us...

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-..during the time we lost Josh.

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-Three hours later,

-Dion reaches Penrhyndeudraeth.

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-Josh is never far from my mind.

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-Would he be proud of you?

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-Yes, guaranteed.

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-He'd be at my side,

-supporting me and laughing at me.

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-At 7.00am, he's in Criccieth.

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-It's a difficult journey

-and the strain is evident.

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-It's been very difficult,

-to be honest...

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-..not just physically but

-there's been a lot to think about.

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-I'm thinking a lot about Josh.

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-When I've been tired,

-I've been thinking about it more.

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-What kind of things

-go through your mind?

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-It's just the loss, I miss him.

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-Harlech,

-and the journey is almost over.

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-Four minutes to go.

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-We've been walking for 24 hours.

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-We've walked 50 miles...

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-..since we started.

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-I feel quite emotional now.

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-Well done.

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-Well done.

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-Plans for Josh's Tree House have

-been presented to Gwynedd Council.

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-After the journey, this father

-is more determined than ever...

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-..to complete the project

-in memory of his son.

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-I've had a lot of time to think

-over the past 20 hours...

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-..to work out where we go from here.

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-The most important thing for us

-is to construct this building...

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-..and see where we go from there

-and what help we can give others.

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-In Wales, 30-34 year old men are

-more likely to take their own lives.

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-The Samaritans received

-over 5.7 million calls last year.

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-A rise of 300,000 since 2015.

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-I've been a volunteer with

-the Samaritans for over 20 years.

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-I'm on my way to the centre.

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-This man answers calls

-to the Samaritans in Bangor.

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-He knows how difficult it is

-to get men to talk.

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-I think women speak more freely

-amongst themselves...

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-..about their feelings

-and experiences, than men do.

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-Men don't share so much and try

-and maintain a macho attitude.

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-They're not as willing

-to discuss their feelings.

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-He's seen depression tipping men

-over the edge in recent years.

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-It can affect everyone.

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-Young men in their teens, middle

-aged men, it's indiscriminate.

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-Share your burdens...

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-..speak to someone

-if you're in any kind of trouble.

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-Whatever your feelings,

-if you have suicidal thoughts...

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-..speak to someone.

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-On June 9, 2017, there were inquests

-into four suicides in Caernarfon.

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-The coroner described male suicides

-as an epidemic.

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-One of the cases

-was the death of Dafydd Dafis.

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-It was completely shocking.

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-I couldn't believe

-it was happening so often.

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-The frequency of cases for men

-was once a week.

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-It was shocking.

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-I hope that one of the things

-that comes out of this...

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-..is making sure

-that it doesn't happen...

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-..to other people

-and other families.

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-I'm sure it will...

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-..but if it can help...

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-..or it can save the life

-of one person, it's something.

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-In 2008, Dafydd Dafis performed

-on stage for the final time.

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-By then, he was seeking

-professional help for depression.

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-I know that he received help

-for a while.

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-That was some time ago.

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-For some reason,

-it didn't last long.

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-I'm not sure

-who gave up on the idea...

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-..Dafydd or the people helping him.

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-It didn't last long.

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-Maybe he didn't receive the answers

-he wanted or expected.

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-Flesh immortalised in art.

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-He received praise

-for his performance...

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-..in Theatr Genedlaethol's

-production of Iesu!...

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-..but he found it difficult

-to socialise.

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-He rarely contacted close friends

-like Rhys Parry Jones.

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-He told me one afternoon after a

-long period of not being in touch...

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-..and this happened regularly...

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-..he said, "I can see your name

-on my phone and I want to answer...

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-"..but I can't

-because of the illness."

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-The actor lives in Cardiff

-and feels angry...

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-..that he couldn't have done more

-to help his friend.

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-Dafydd used to say

-during his final months...

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-.."Come up, I could do with a hug."

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-He was just so lonely.

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-That he was that lonely

-during his final moments...

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-..that's heart-breaking.

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-Dafydd Dafis was 58 years old

-when he took his own life.

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-He's still here in some ways.

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-We know he's gone

-and we miss him so much...

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-..but his work and his legacy

-have been left behind.

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-The Ysgethin Inn.

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-Dion Llwyd-Hopcroft

-and his family have organised...

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-..a day of the dead event

-as part of the campaign...

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-..to raise money

-for Josh's Tree House.

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-It's an opportunity for friends

-and family to celebrate Josh's life.

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-Josh's best friends

-are here tonight.

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-We've watched them grow up.

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-It makes us wonder

-what Josh would look like now.

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-It's almost two years

-since we lost him.

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-The only memory we have

-is the time we lost him.

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-People change as they get older.

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-That's difficult, that's very

-difficult to come to terms with.

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-Dylan Trahearn is one of

-Josh's friend since primary school.

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-We used to do everything together.

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-He'd work, I'd come home from work

-and then I'd go up to see him.

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-I'd stay in his house,

-he'd stay in mine.

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-We'd wear each other's clothes.

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-Good times.

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-No-one knows for sure

-why Josh took his own life.

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-His friends are still wondering

-why he did something so extreme.

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-He told me

-he'd come out as bisexual.

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-It was the best thing he'd done.

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-He was happy.

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-When I had the phone call

-the following day...

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-..I was devastated, heartbroken.

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-His family and friends

-suspect online bullying...

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-..had influenced his mind

-during his final days.

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-His father is hard on himself...

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-..for not spotting

-that something serious was wrong.

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-I question myself all the time. Why?

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-Sometimes, it eats me up

-that I didn't spot the symptoms...

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-..that there was something wrong.

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-As a parent, are you as a parent

-there to look after your children?

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-I feel guilty...

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-..and I'm hard on myself for not

-spotting the symptoms with Josh.

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-That's what's difficult for me

-to come to terms with.

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-# No more bad days #

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-It's 18 months since Josh

-Llwyd-Hopcroft took his own life.

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-The family battles to cope

-with the void his death left behind.

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-His father urges those

-with mental health problems...

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-..to ask for help

-before it gets too late.

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-People must share their problems.

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-At the end of the day,

-if you don't share your problems...

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-..I think the only thing it will do

-is eat away at you.

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-I'm 100% sure that if Josh had come

-to us to say something was wrong...

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-..I know we could have

-sorted it out somehow or other.

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-# I will always carry you

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-# 'Cause you are sweet and pure

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-# Yeah, you are beautiful

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-# In everything you do #

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-S4C Subtitles by Adnod Cyf.

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Mae'r nifer o hunanladdiadau yng Nghymru ar gynnydd gyda thri chwarter o'r rhain wedi'u cyflawni gan ddynion. Heno, hanes dau deulu. The families of 2 men speak openly about their suicides.