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Sorry, bye. | 0:00:28 | 0:00:30 | |
MOBILE RINGS | 0:00:30 | 0:00:32 | |
Hello. | 0:00:32 | 0:00:34 | |
Professor Lewis? It's Doctor Sid Vere. I wanted to check | 0:00:34 | 0:00:37 | |
you're still on for the Student Fair this afternoon? | 0:00:37 | 0:00:39 | |
Absolutely, yes. I shall be heading down your way, in about 30 minutes. | 0:00:39 | 0:00:43 | |
Fantastic! | 0:00:43 | 0:00:44 | |
We can talk through it then. | 0:00:44 | 0:00:46 | |
See you then. | 0:00:46 | 0:00:47 | |
-All right? -Yep. He's on his way. | 0:00:47 | 0:00:50 | |
-Here are those bits that you wanted. How's it going? -Yeah, fine. | 0:00:50 | 0:00:53 | |
We're going to focus on eating disorders, | 0:00:53 | 0:00:55 | |
some creative therapies, art... | 0:00:55 | 0:00:56 | |
We've got someone who specialises in Yoga coming down. | 0:00:56 | 0:00:59 | |
We've got speeches throughout the day, couple of big ones | 0:00:59 | 0:01:01 | |
to finish on. Professor Lewis from the uni. And then, to finish, | 0:01:01 | 0:01:04 | |
I've got this graduate student who has been through it all. | 0:01:04 | 0:01:06 | |
He's so inspirational. | 0:01:06 | 0:01:08 | |
OK, all right, what do you want me to do? | 0:01:08 | 0:01:10 | |
How much time have you got? | 0:01:10 | 0:01:11 | |
I'm at the Campus for a bit this morning, | 0:01:11 | 0:01:13 | |
but I can come back and forth. | 0:01:13 | 0:01:15 | |
OK, well, maybe promote the practice and try and push the helpline. | 0:01:15 | 0:01:19 | |
OK, fine. See you. | 0:01:19 | 0:01:20 | |
Here they come. | 0:01:21 | 0:01:23 | |
MOBILE RINGS | 0:01:23 | 0:01:26 | |
Hi Ben! It's good to hear from you. | 0:01:28 | 0:01:30 | |
Listen. | 0:01:30 | 0:01:32 | |
I wanted to say sorry about yesterday. | 0:01:32 | 0:01:34 | |
What for? | 0:01:34 | 0:01:35 | |
For going on about Harry. | 0:01:35 | 0:01:37 | |
That's fine! | 0:01:38 | 0:01:40 | |
Yeah, but it wasn't fair, to put it on you like that. | 0:01:40 | 0:01:43 | |
No, no. I just really wish there was something I could do to help. | 0:01:43 | 0:01:46 | |
Maybe I could take you out for lunch to make up for it? | 0:01:46 | 0:01:50 | |
You can buy me lunch. | 0:01:50 | 0:01:51 | |
But on the condition that we both talk about whatever | 0:01:51 | 0:01:54 | |
we want to talk about. | 0:01:54 | 0:01:55 | |
Harry included. Deal? | 0:01:55 | 0:01:56 | |
Deal. | 0:01:56 | 0:01:58 | |
If anyone wants to make an appointment, | 0:02:03 | 0:02:05 | |
come in for a chat, that's what we're here for. | 0:02:05 | 0:02:08 | |
Or you can fill in ones of these postcards, drop it in the box | 0:02:08 | 0:02:11 | |
and we'll get back to you. | 0:02:11 | 0:02:13 | |
Half three's fine. | 0:02:13 | 0:02:15 | |
So how long do you want me to speak for? | 0:02:15 | 0:02:16 | |
-Most people are doing about five or ten minutes. -That's fine. | 0:02:16 | 0:02:21 | |
Actually, there's some interesting new stuff on social | 0:02:21 | 0:02:24 | |
inclusion in relation to recovery, I might do some on that. | 0:02:24 | 0:02:27 | |
Sounds great. Thank you. | 0:02:28 | 0:02:30 | |
-Hey, Daniel. -Haven't seen you down the club recently. | 0:02:30 | 0:02:33 | |
It's a busy time, getting third-year students over the final hurdles. | 0:02:33 | 0:02:36 | |
-Handicap suffers every year. -Oh, yeah. | 0:02:36 | 0:02:38 | |
I know it might get annoying, but can I ask you a question? | 0:02:40 | 0:02:43 | |
-Medical one. -Sure. | 0:02:43 | 0:02:44 | |
Although your GP is usually the best placed. Who are you with? | 0:02:44 | 0:02:47 | |
Doctor Reid. | 0:02:47 | 0:02:48 | |
She's a lovely woman, um, the thing is, | 0:02:48 | 0:02:51 | |
I'm in a new relationship and, er, | 0:02:51 | 0:02:53 | |
I kind of feel a little bit... | 0:02:53 | 0:02:55 | |
discussing this kind of thing with her. | 0:02:55 | 0:02:58 | |
OK, I'm going back down to the Campus Surgery in a bit, | 0:02:58 | 0:03:00 | |
if you want to talk. | 0:03:00 | 0:03:02 | |
-Sure. -OK. | 0:03:02 | 0:03:03 | |
Seriously, no-one wants to sign up, they're too embarrassed. | 0:03:03 | 0:03:07 | |
What should we do? | 0:03:07 | 0:03:08 | |
Not sure there's an easy answer to that one. | 0:03:09 | 0:03:12 | |
There we go. | 0:03:13 | 0:03:15 | |
Now, promise me you'll be more careful next time. | 0:03:15 | 0:03:18 | |
Because no goal is worth a scrape like that. | 0:03:18 | 0:03:21 | |
Oh, I said the wrong thing there. | 0:03:23 | 0:03:25 | |
-Thank you. -No problem, take care. -Come on! | 0:03:25 | 0:03:28 | |
You'd have thought they'd at least fill in a postcard. | 0:03:47 | 0:03:50 | |
WHALE SONG PLAYS | 0:03:50 | 0:03:52 | |
Do you reckon the whale noises are putting them off? | 0:03:52 | 0:03:56 | |
Mental illness carries such a stigma. | 0:03:56 | 0:03:58 | |
They're bound to be self-conscious, I guess. | 0:03:58 | 0:04:00 | |
-Yeah, but how do you get round that? -No idea. | 0:04:00 | 0:04:04 | |
Oh! Maybe the Campus website? | 0:04:04 | 0:04:07 | |
Yeah! Bit less in your face. Anonymous. | 0:04:07 | 0:04:09 | |
Exactly. And then you get the conversation started. | 0:04:09 | 0:04:13 | |
-Hiya, I'm Ruth. -Hi, thanks for coming. | 0:04:13 | 0:04:16 | |
Ruth, this is Ayesha, our practice nurse. | 0:04:16 | 0:04:18 | |
This is Ruth, she's doing a PhD in the psychology department. | 0:04:18 | 0:04:21 | |
And you're promoting yoga as an alternative therapy? | 0:04:21 | 0:04:24 | |
-That's me. -SID'S PHONE RINGS | 0:04:24 | 0:04:25 | |
-Shall I put these out? -Yeah, wherever you like. | 0:04:25 | 0:04:28 | |
Hope you have more joy getting people to sign up than we have. | 0:04:28 | 0:04:31 | |
Really? | 0:04:31 | 0:04:33 | |
Oh. That's a shame. I can't change your mind? | 0:04:34 | 0:04:36 | |
OK, you too. | 0:04:38 | 0:04:40 | |
My amazing recovering student has just changed his mind. | 0:04:43 | 0:04:46 | |
Said he doesn't want defining as the mentally ill person with a story. | 0:04:46 | 0:04:49 | |
Can see his point. | 0:04:49 | 0:04:51 | |
What now? | 0:04:51 | 0:04:53 | |
There's got to be someone, you know, who's been there, seen it all. | 0:04:54 | 0:04:59 | |
-Can you hold the fort for a bit? -Yeah, 'course. | 0:04:59 | 0:05:02 | |
Everything all right? | 0:05:10 | 0:05:12 | |
In a word, no. | 0:05:13 | 0:05:15 | |
Oh! | 0:05:15 | 0:05:16 | |
It's so frustrating. | 0:05:17 | 0:05:19 | |
I met this little boy yesterday, Harry. | 0:05:19 | 0:05:22 | |
He's just a lovely child, and he's lying in his hospital bed. | 0:05:22 | 0:05:27 | |
He's got a systemic autoimmune condition, | 0:05:27 | 0:05:30 | |
and there's nothing they can do for him. | 0:05:30 | 0:05:32 | |
It's unstoppable. | 0:05:32 | 0:05:34 | |
-Harry Owens? -You know him? | 0:05:34 | 0:05:37 | |
I know of him, yeah. | 0:05:37 | 0:05:38 | |
It started in his gut and now it's affecting his thyroid. | 0:05:41 | 0:05:44 | |
What's the prognosis? | 0:05:44 | 0:05:46 | |
Valerie, I know. | 0:05:49 | 0:05:53 | |
I know. Seriously, I'm on it. | 0:05:53 | 0:05:55 | |
I just can't discuss the details right now. | 0:05:55 | 0:05:57 | |
I will talk to you later. OK, bye-bye. | 0:05:57 | 0:06:00 | |
Sorry! Where were we? | 0:06:00 | 0:06:02 | |
Just wondering if you want me to get up on the table and demo some moves? | 0:06:02 | 0:06:06 | |
I've got the leotard on under this. | 0:06:06 | 0:06:08 | |
Um... | 0:06:08 | 0:06:10 | |
Don't worry. Joking. | 0:06:10 | 0:06:11 | |
Yoga. The link between health, mental health and physical health. | 0:06:13 | 0:06:19 | |
Try it. Great for anxiety, depression, stress. | 0:06:20 | 0:06:24 | |
It's been a while since I've done the old downward facing dog. | 0:06:24 | 0:06:28 | |
Is it me or do most yoga positions sound a bit rude? | 0:06:29 | 0:06:33 | |
Great for your love-life! That's for sure. | 0:06:33 | 0:06:35 | |
What love-life? | 0:06:35 | 0:06:37 | |
MOBILE RINGS | 0:06:37 | 0:06:39 | |
Hi, Valerie. | 0:06:39 | 0:06:40 | |
A Grim Reaper costume? No, do not buy that. | 0:06:42 | 0:06:45 | |
I'll get it sorted, I promise! | 0:06:47 | 0:06:48 | |
We've been seeing more and more of each other, you know, | 0:06:54 | 0:06:58 | |
drinks, coffee... | 0:06:58 | 0:07:00 | |
You kind of bump into each other in the corridor, | 0:07:00 | 0:07:03 | |
ten minutes later you're still talking to each other. | 0:07:03 | 0:07:05 | |
So, what's the problem? | 0:07:05 | 0:07:07 | |
Someone like you would probably think this is not a problem. | 0:07:07 | 0:07:11 | |
OK. I sense, things are going to become physical. | 0:07:11 | 0:07:14 | |
We're going away together for the weekend. | 0:07:15 | 0:07:18 | |
And I'm afraid it's not going to work. | 0:07:18 | 0:07:20 | |
Any particular reason? Have you had previous surgery in the area? | 0:07:20 | 0:07:23 | |
Or do you have low blood pressure? | 0:07:23 | 0:07:25 | |
No, no. It's more of a fear of self-fulfilling prophecy. | 0:07:25 | 0:07:31 | |
Nerves about it not working, leading to more nerves, | 0:07:31 | 0:07:35 | |
leading me into a spiral, meaning it's not all right on the night. | 0:07:35 | 0:07:41 | |
-It's all in the mind. -Isn't everything? | 0:07:41 | 0:07:43 | |
Let's check the body first. | 0:07:43 | 0:07:45 | |
Make sure your physiology is in order first, OK. | 0:07:45 | 0:07:47 | |
So, just roll your sleeve up. | 0:07:47 | 0:07:49 | |
-I'm in a bit of a fix. -Oh. | 0:07:51 | 0:07:53 | |
My main speaker dropped out for this afternoon. | 0:07:53 | 0:07:55 | |
You know that we're running a mental health | 0:07:55 | 0:07:57 | |
stall at the student fair. | 0:07:57 | 0:07:58 | |
Anyway, the great thing about him was that he'd really been there. | 0:07:58 | 0:08:01 | |
-You know, and... -You want me to speak? | 0:08:01 | 0:08:04 | |
It would be so great to hear about your experience. | 0:08:04 | 0:08:06 | |
The problem we've got is, we've got all these students, | 0:08:06 | 0:08:09 | |
they won't even take a leaflet in case people start labelling them. | 0:08:09 | 0:08:13 | |
And then there'd be you, a doctor. It would be such a positive message. | 0:08:13 | 0:08:17 | |
I did that once. It felt OK. | 0:08:17 | 0:08:20 | |
But I'm not doing it again. Sorry. | 0:08:20 | 0:08:22 | |
I'm sure there's someone you can ask. | 0:08:22 | 0:08:25 | |
What's the verdict, Doc. Am I going to live? | 0:08:27 | 0:08:30 | |
You're in OK shape. | 0:08:30 | 0:08:31 | |
But I see that you're on nitrates for angina. | 0:08:31 | 0:08:33 | |
You know that rules out the little blue pills, don't you? | 0:08:33 | 0:08:36 | |
I had read something. Does that completely rule them out? | 0:08:36 | 0:08:39 | |
I wouldn't run the risk. | 0:08:39 | 0:08:40 | |
-Just as I thought. -You need to relax. | 0:08:40 | 0:08:43 | |
And trust that your body will do the right thing. | 0:08:43 | 0:08:46 | |
Yeah, but the pressure's on, more than you might think you know? | 0:08:46 | 0:08:48 | |
There's a bit of an age gap. 20 odd years. | 0:08:48 | 0:08:51 | |
It kind of sneaked up on us. | 0:08:51 | 0:08:53 | |
First I thought, we were just good friends. | 0:08:53 | 0:08:56 | |
Definitely a meeting of the minds. | 0:08:56 | 0:08:59 | |
It's quite intimidating, to be honest. | 0:08:59 | 0:09:02 | |
You fancy her. She fancies you. | 0:09:02 | 0:09:04 | |
There isn't a problem. | 0:09:04 | 0:09:05 | |
Morning, Heston. Actually, bit of a long shot, are you busy later? | 0:09:09 | 0:09:11 | |
Ruddy car blocked me in. | 0:09:11 | 0:09:13 | |
I was stuck outside Mrs Rylance's house for 20 minutes! | 0:09:13 | 0:09:15 | |
And they saunter back from shopping, no hint of an apology! | 0:09:15 | 0:09:18 | |
I could have been on an emergency call. | 0:09:18 | 0:09:20 | |
Sorry? Did you want something? | 0:09:20 | 0:09:22 | |
-No, it's fine. Forget about it. -Good man. | 0:09:22 | 0:09:25 | |
KNOCKING | 0:09:28 | 0:09:30 | |
-Hello? -Hi. Harry Owens. -Yes. | 0:09:30 | 0:09:32 | |
It's been bugging me since we last spoke. | 0:09:32 | 0:09:34 | |
His condition, some call it 'FAS?' Fredricksson's Autoimmune Syndrome? | 0:09:34 | 0:09:39 | |
I didn't hear anything about that. | 0:09:39 | 0:09:40 | |
It's new. | 0:09:40 | 0:09:42 | |
I saw the research was referenced at a conference a few months back. | 0:09:42 | 0:09:45 | |
I didn't go to the seminar, but... | 0:09:45 | 0:09:47 | |
-Do you mind if I...? -Oh, please. | 0:09:47 | 0:09:49 | |
I'm sure they were developing a treatment. | 0:09:50 | 0:09:52 | |
I've scoured all the official journals. There's nothing! | 0:09:52 | 0:09:55 | |
No, it's because it's way off the mainstream. | 0:09:55 | 0:09:57 | |
Might be worth a look though. | 0:09:57 | 0:09:59 | |
Here we go! Yeah. | 0:09:59 | 0:10:01 | |
It's a form of plasmapheresis with some less common | 0:10:01 | 0:10:03 | |
electrolytes by the look of it. | 0:10:03 | 0:10:05 | |
They're using an immunosuppressive biological agent. | 0:10:05 | 0:10:08 | |
And there you go. | 0:10:09 | 0:10:11 | |
It's not approved. | 0:10:11 | 0:10:12 | |
Right, in the UK. | 0:10:12 | 0:10:14 | |
Or anywhere, look. | 0:10:14 | 0:10:16 | |
It's available in Europe, on an experimental basis... | 0:10:16 | 0:10:18 | |
Yeah, well that's tricky and expensive. | 0:10:18 | 0:10:20 | |
No, no, this could be a lifeline. | 0:10:20 | 0:10:22 | |
I'm going to have to leave you with that. | 0:10:22 | 0:10:24 | |
I promised Ayesha I'd head back to the stall. | 0:10:24 | 0:10:26 | |
-Are you OK to cover? -Of course. | 0:10:26 | 0:10:27 | |
And thank you so much for this, Daniel. | 0:10:27 | 0:10:29 | |
So, how's it been? | 0:10:43 | 0:10:44 | |
Busy. But we've coped. | 0:10:44 | 0:10:47 | |
And, I've had an idea for Valerie's hen do. Finally! | 0:10:47 | 0:10:50 | |
-Phew. -It's a bit off the wall. | 0:10:50 | 0:10:52 | |
This is Valerie we're talking about. | 0:10:52 | 0:10:54 | |
Exactly, so it could be perfect. | 0:10:54 | 0:10:57 | |
Did you manage to find another speaker? | 0:10:57 | 0:11:00 | |
Nope. No dice. | 0:11:00 | 0:11:01 | |
That's a shame. What are you going to do? | 0:11:01 | 0:11:03 | |
That is just not true! | 0:11:08 | 0:11:10 | |
No way am I guaranteed a first just because he's marking my paper! | 0:11:10 | 0:11:13 | |
So, like I said, I'm really sorry. | 0:11:19 | 0:11:22 | |
Let's talk about anything but. | 0:11:22 | 0:11:24 | |
Actually, I might have found something. | 0:11:24 | 0:11:28 | |
Maybe you've been here before. | 0:11:28 | 0:11:30 | |
A colleague of mine dug this out. | 0:11:30 | 0:11:32 | |
It's very obscure stuff, and it's really early days. | 0:11:32 | 0:11:37 | |
I mean, it's not even available over here, but I thought, | 0:11:40 | 0:11:45 | |
you know, it's positive, | 0:11:45 | 0:11:47 | |
and it might show that there's some progress being made somewhere. | 0:11:47 | 0:11:51 | |
"Significantly prolongs the life of patients." This is amazing! | 0:11:51 | 0:11:54 | |
It's at the really experimental stages. | 0:11:54 | 0:11:56 | |
-I will come see you later on. -Yeah. | 0:12:00 | 0:12:02 | |
-Daniel. -Hi. | 0:12:02 | 0:12:04 | |
Just wanted to say, what we were talking about earlier. | 0:12:04 | 0:12:07 | |
-You must think I'm making a mountain out of a molehill. -No. | 0:12:09 | 0:12:12 | |
But the thing is, I didn't mention the most important bit. | 0:12:12 | 0:12:17 | |
I know it sounds ridiculous, but I think I'm falling in love. | 0:12:17 | 0:12:21 | |
I didn't think it would happen to me. | 0:12:23 | 0:12:26 | |
Not at my age. | 0:12:26 | 0:12:28 | |
Thought all that had closed down years ago, | 0:12:28 | 0:12:30 | |
when my wife packed her bags. | 0:12:30 | 0:12:32 | |
You forget what a fantastic feeling it is. | 0:12:34 | 0:12:37 | |
It's like being a teenager! | 0:12:37 | 0:12:38 | |
So it's been good talking to you. | 0:12:40 | 0:12:43 | |
Thank you for your honesty. | 0:12:43 | 0:12:44 | |
I've just got to act on it now. | 0:12:46 | 0:12:48 | |
Yeah. | 0:12:48 | 0:12:49 | |
What? | 0:12:52 | 0:12:53 | |
She's obviously really important to you. | 0:12:55 | 0:12:59 | |
Yeah, she means the world. Why do you ask? | 0:12:59 | 0:13:01 | |
Maybe just be careful. | 0:13:03 | 0:13:05 | |
You're her supervisor, right? You're responsible for marking her work. | 0:13:05 | 0:13:10 | |
Look, I don't want to rain on your parade... | 0:13:10 | 0:13:13 | |
But, is it worth considering, before you get in too deep, | 0:13:14 | 0:13:18 | |
whether or not she's just using you? | 0:13:18 | 0:13:20 | |
What makes you say that? | 0:13:24 | 0:13:26 | |
I overheard her talking before. | 0:13:26 | 0:13:30 | |
Sorry. | 0:13:30 | 0:13:32 | |
No, no, no. I had my suspicions. | 0:13:35 | 0:13:38 | |
But then, you know what? | 0:13:41 | 0:13:43 | |
I buried them, | 0:13:43 | 0:13:45 | |
because I think somewhere deep down | 0:13:45 | 0:13:47 | |
I think it's all too good to be true. | 0:13:47 | 0:13:50 | |
So right now, I hate you for saying so, but you're right. | 0:13:53 | 0:13:58 | |
Thanks. | 0:14:00 | 0:14:01 | |
I knew something would come up, it always does. | 0:14:06 | 0:14:09 | |
Just when you think you're beaten. | 0:14:09 | 0:14:10 | |
OK, let's not get ahead of ourselves. | 0:14:10 | 0:14:12 | |
You know, it's still in the very early stages. | 0:14:12 | 0:14:14 | |
It's not like it's on the NHS. | 0:14:14 | 0:14:15 | |
Yeah, but they're not exactly amateurs, | 0:14:15 | 0:14:18 | |
not when you read the science behind it. | 0:14:18 | 0:14:21 | |
You know, I've been praying every single night. | 0:14:21 | 0:14:25 | |
And sometimes when I've been lying there, | 0:14:26 | 0:14:30 | |
I've known something will come along. | 0:14:30 | 0:14:33 | |
Or should I say, someone? | 0:14:35 | 0:14:37 | |
Thank you so much. | 0:14:47 | 0:14:49 | |
-I'm going straight down the hospital now. -Oh, OK. | 0:14:51 | 0:14:55 | |
Right. | 0:14:55 | 0:14:56 | |
Bye. | 0:14:56 | 0:14:57 | |
Yeah, things are going well. | 0:15:00 | 0:15:02 | |
I'm not sure how much longer I'll be down here but... | 0:15:02 | 0:15:06 | |
Listen, I'm going to call you later, OK. | 0:15:06 | 0:15:09 | |
Oh, hi. I heard you're doing a speech. | 0:15:09 | 0:15:11 | |
Perhaps you can use some of it in your doctorate. | 0:15:11 | 0:15:15 | |
Although, I hear you're guaranteed a good mark whatever you write. | 0:15:15 | 0:15:20 | |
Sorry, what are you talking about? | 0:15:20 | 0:15:22 | |
What are you trying to say? | 0:15:22 | 0:15:24 | |
Someone overheard you. | 0:15:24 | 0:15:26 | |
-I should have known from the start. -Overheard what? | 0:15:26 | 0:15:29 | |
Don't bother. It's hard enough already. | 0:15:32 | 0:15:35 | |
Dad? Are you OK? | 0:15:37 | 0:15:38 | |
Thank you. | 0:15:48 | 0:15:49 | |
I didn't know you were coming in today. | 0:15:49 | 0:15:52 | |
Yeah, I saw this in town | 0:15:52 | 0:15:54 | |
and I thought, "I know someone that loves Roman soldiers." | 0:15:54 | 0:15:57 | |
He'll love it. | 0:15:57 | 0:15:59 | |
Actually, do you want a cup of tea? | 0:16:00 | 0:16:03 | |
Yeah. | 0:16:03 | 0:16:05 | |
Roy, can I have a word? | 0:16:10 | 0:16:13 | |
That young girl you were talking to back there - | 0:16:13 | 0:16:15 | |
is she your daughter? | 0:16:15 | 0:16:16 | |
Martine. | 0:16:16 | 0:16:18 | |
Yeah, and is she in your department, too? | 0:16:18 | 0:16:20 | |
Yes, why? | 0:16:20 | 0:16:23 | |
Because she's the one that I overheard. | 0:16:23 | 0:16:25 | |
You thought I was having an affair with Martine. | 0:16:31 | 0:16:33 | |
To be fair, I didn't know that she was your daughter. | 0:16:33 | 0:16:36 | |
-I've got some news. -So have I. | 0:16:38 | 0:16:40 | |
-Yeah, but... -No, you need to hear this. | 0:16:40 | 0:16:44 | |
Doctor Richmond caught me on the way in and he's... | 0:16:45 | 0:16:48 | |
I think he's trying to prepare us. | 0:16:48 | 0:16:51 | |
They were saying that the main thing now is to make sure that | 0:16:51 | 0:16:54 | |
-Harry's comfortable. -Of course he's got to be comfortable. | 0:16:54 | 0:16:56 | |
You're missing the point. | 0:16:56 | 0:16:58 | |
He's not just going to come out and say it, unless he has to | 0:16:58 | 0:17:01 | |
but he's basically saying it's palliative care from now on. | 0:17:01 | 0:17:04 | |
We have to accept that. | 0:17:04 | 0:17:06 | |
No, there's some new research I've found. | 0:17:06 | 0:17:08 | |
-That's why I'm here. -How many times? | 0:17:08 | 0:17:12 | |
-This is different. -We have to help each other. | 0:17:12 | 0:17:15 | |
-Don't make me do this on my own. -Please, wait! Just wait! | 0:17:15 | 0:17:19 | |
Are you going to listen? | 0:17:21 | 0:17:24 | |
Yeah. | 0:17:24 | 0:17:26 | |
Ruth Darby? | 0:17:30 | 0:17:32 | |
-Hello, my names Daniel Granger. I'm from the... -From the surgery. | 0:17:32 | 0:17:35 | |
Yeah. I think there's been a bit of a mix-up | 0:17:35 | 0:17:38 | |
about you and Professor Lewis. | 0:17:38 | 0:17:40 | |
What kind of a mix-up? | 0:17:40 | 0:17:42 | |
Well, the thing is, he told me that | 0:17:44 | 0:17:45 | |
he was starting a relationship with someone | 0:17:45 | 0:17:47 | |
and that there was a bit of an age gap. | 0:17:47 | 0:17:50 | |
And then I overheard his daughter talking about the fact that she | 0:17:50 | 0:17:53 | |
was going to get a first because he was marking her paper. | 0:17:53 | 0:17:56 | |
At that point, I didn't know that was his daughter. | 0:17:56 | 0:18:00 | |
So I put two and two together and | 0:18:00 | 0:18:02 | |
I'm afraid I've made a bit of a mess of things. | 0:18:02 | 0:18:04 | |
Well, that's what he was grovelling on about. | 0:18:04 | 0:18:08 | |
Yeah. So I wondered if there's any chance that we could rewind | 0:18:08 | 0:18:12 | |
and pretend that none of this happened? | 0:18:12 | 0:18:15 | |
No, of course there isn't! | 0:18:15 | 0:18:17 | |
The thing is, it's completely my fault. | 0:18:17 | 0:18:19 | |
Roy has done nothing wrong. | 0:18:19 | 0:18:21 | |
How very male of you to entirely miss the subtext. | 0:18:21 | 0:18:24 | |
He couldn't wait to believe you, could he? | 0:18:24 | 0:18:28 | |
He's been trying to back out | 0:18:28 | 0:18:29 | |
ever since we decided to go away together - | 0:18:29 | 0:18:32 | |
over one too many glasses of wine, it seems. | 0:18:32 | 0:18:34 | |
-He wants to go away with you. -How do you know what he wants?! | 0:18:34 | 0:18:38 | |
Why isn't he telling me? | 0:18:38 | 0:18:39 | |
You're right. | 0:18:39 | 0:18:42 | |
I haven't been communicating brilliantly. | 0:18:42 | 0:18:46 | |
Oh, you have, Roy, actually. | 0:18:46 | 0:18:49 | |
But it's time I did. | 0:18:49 | 0:18:51 | |
I've come to say, how much you mean to me. | 0:18:51 | 0:18:55 | |
Semiotics. | 0:18:55 | 0:18:57 | |
Come on, Professor, you've being saying it loud and clear. | 0:18:57 | 0:19:00 | |
I'm much too old for you. | 0:19:00 | 0:19:03 | |
-No! -It's fine. I get it, don't worry. | 0:19:03 | 0:19:06 | |
Ruth, just listen to me. | 0:19:06 | 0:19:10 | |
"Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. | 0:19:10 | 0:19:13 | |
"Act! Action will delineate and define you." | 0:19:13 | 0:19:17 | |
Thomas Jefferson. | 0:19:17 | 0:19:19 | |
Surprised you don't know that one, Roy. | 0:19:20 | 0:19:24 | |
Ruth, wait! | 0:19:24 | 0:19:26 | |
I'd be so grateful if... | 0:19:26 | 0:19:28 | |
OK. | 0:19:30 | 0:19:32 | |
Yeah, well, thanks anyway. | 0:19:32 | 0:19:34 | |
Still no joy? | 0:19:35 | 0:19:37 | |
No. | 0:19:37 | 0:19:39 | |
Now what? | 0:19:39 | 0:19:40 | |
Guess I'll have to do it. | 0:19:42 | 0:19:43 | |
I thought you wanted someone who'd been through it. | 0:19:43 | 0:19:46 | |
Yeah, well... | 0:19:46 | 0:19:47 | |
I do know what it's like to be a student | 0:19:47 | 0:19:49 | |
-away from home for the first time... -Not quite the same. | 0:19:49 | 0:19:51 | |
No, but I could talk about looking after your mental well-being, | 0:19:51 | 0:19:55 | |
staving off depression and low self-esteem. | 0:19:55 | 0:19:58 | |
I mean, it's more about recognising | 0:19:58 | 0:20:00 | |
when these things are happening to you... | 0:20:00 | 0:20:02 | |
and to other people, come to that. | 0:20:02 | 0:20:04 | |
What? | 0:20:06 | 0:20:08 | |
Is it your mum? | 0:20:12 | 0:20:14 | |
I've not heard from her since she left. | 0:20:14 | 0:20:16 | |
She could be dead, for all I know. | 0:20:18 | 0:20:20 | |
Oh, come on, Eysh. | 0:20:20 | 0:20:21 | |
It's true. Drinking herself to death. | 0:20:21 | 0:20:26 | |
Is that why she drinks? | 0:20:26 | 0:20:28 | |
Maybe. | 0:20:31 | 0:20:33 | |
It's probably why I drink so much. | 0:20:34 | 0:20:36 | |
Are you stressed? | 0:20:38 | 0:20:40 | |
Worried. | 0:20:41 | 0:20:42 | |
Do you realise we've never talked about arrangements? | 0:20:48 | 0:20:52 | |
What arrangements? | 0:20:52 | 0:20:54 | |
For when Harry passes on. | 0:20:54 | 0:20:57 | |
I don't want to talk about that. | 0:20:57 | 0:20:59 | |
So what happens then, practically? | 0:20:59 | 0:21:02 | |
-I don't know and don't want to know. -So who's going to sort it out then? | 0:21:02 | 0:21:05 | |
Nobody, because it's not going to happen. | 0:21:05 | 0:21:08 | |
You're in denial and it's going to be me picking up the pieces. | 0:21:08 | 0:21:11 | |
That's not fair. | 0:21:11 | 0:21:13 | |
Some students arrive here with established problems. | 0:21:17 | 0:21:20 | |
We need to make sure their needs are met. | 0:21:20 | 0:21:24 | |
But many people also experience difficulties | 0:21:24 | 0:21:27 | |
for the first time at university. | 0:21:27 | 0:21:29 | |
Life here contains plenty of triggers - | 0:21:30 | 0:21:34 | |
isolation, disorientation, stress. | 0:21:34 | 0:21:38 | |
This is where a proactive and holistic approach is needed | 0:21:39 | 0:21:45 | |
before these issues begin to spiral. | 0:21:45 | 0:21:49 | |
Sleep, exercise and eating well, they all help, | 0:21:49 | 0:21:53 | |
but there's something even more fundamental we can all do - | 0:21:53 | 0:21:58 | |
that's talk. | 0:21:58 | 0:22:00 | |
That's why a buddy system is so important. | 0:22:00 | 0:22:03 | |
Talking, easing the burdens. | 0:22:03 | 0:22:06 | |
It's so easy to do, yet so easy to forget to do. | 0:22:06 | 0:22:09 | |
So this is to all of you... of us - | 0:22:10 | 0:22:13 | |
reach out, and others will reach out to you. | 0:22:13 | 0:22:18 | |
If you need to take action, act. | 0:22:18 | 0:22:21 | |
That will make the difference. | 0:22:22 | 0:22:24 | |
-Just listen. -Please, Ben. | 0:22:24 | 0:22:26 | |
"It represents a long-awaited step forward in seeking to combat | 0:22:26 | 0:22:29 | |
"the enigma that is FAS." | 0:22:29 | 0:22:32 | |
"The new approach is based on plasmapheresis, | 0:22:32 | 0:22:34 | |
"and has been achieving some extraordinary, | 0:22:34 | 0:22:36 | |
"unexpected results in terms of extending life." | 0:22:36 | 0:22:39 | |
Sarah, this is real. | 0:22:40 | 0:22:42 | |
So it's about peer-to-peer support | 0:22:46 | 0:22:48 | |
and support between those who have problems and those who don't. | 0:22:48 | 0:22:52 | |
University is a time of stress. | 0:22:52 | 0:22:55 | |
That comes with the deal. | 0:22:55 | 0:22:57 | |
But arguably, it's the stressful times that forge us as people. | 0:22:59 | 0:23:02 | |
So embrace it, but more importantly, embrace the people around you. | 0:23:02 | 0:23:08 | |
-Let's go on holiday. -Yeah, right. | 0:23:14 | 0:23:17 | |
Come on, you can't say you don't need one. | 0:23:17 | 0:23:20 | |
-Let's go together. -Together? | 0:23:20 | 0:23:22 | |
Not "together" together. | 0:23:22 | 0:23:24 | |
You know, just two mates. It'll be fun. | 0:23:24 | 0:23:27 | |
Yeah, all right. As long as you organise it. | 0:23:27 | 0:23:30 | |
-I've got enough on my plate with Valerie. -Fine. -Cool. | 0:23:30 | 0:23:34 | |
-Thank you so much, Professor Lewis. Thank you. -You're welcome. | 0:23:34 | 0:23:37 | |
Now, we did have another speaker, but sadly they've had to pull out. | 0:23:37 | 0:23:42 | |
So I'm going to say a few words instead. | 0:23:42 | 0:23:45 | |
Now, I can't speak from any personal experience, | 0:23:45 | 0:23:50 | |
not at all but... | 0:23:50 | 0:23:51 | |
Well, I am a doctor and after several years at medical school | 0:23:51 | 0:23:54 | |
and I think I know a few things about stress and anxiety. | 0:23:54 | 0:23:56 | |
I mean, none of us are immune. | 0:23:56 | 0:23:59 | |
And I've seen enough patients to know just how common these | 0:23:59 | 0:24:01 | |
issues can be... | 0:24:01 | 0:24:03 | |
I just want to say sorry. | 0:24:03 | 0:24:06 | |
I've been so nervous about everything. | 0:24:06 | 0:24:09 | |
You must have thought I was mad. | 0:24:09 | 0:24:12 | |
Unfortunate choice of words. | 0:24:12 | 0:24:15 | |
We all just need to be mindful, OK? | 0:24:15 | 0:24:18 | |
Step outside our own worries and just live in the moment, OK? | 0:24:18 | 0:24:23 | |
Keep learning, keep healthy, keep active and connect. | 0:24:23 | 0:24:25 | |
Yeah, let's all do that, shall we? | 0:24:26 | 0:24:29 | |
Just connect with each other, yeah? Thank you. | 0:24:29 | 0:24:32 | |
Don't you want to know the reason why I've been so nervous? | 0:24:38 | 0:24:43 | |
It's because I can't stop thinking about you. | 0:24:45 | 0:24:48 | |
You mean so much to me. | 0:24:49 | 0:24:52 | |
I can't afford to get anything wrong. | 0:24:52 | 0:24:56 | |
Just more talk, Roy. | 0:24:56 | 0:24:58 | |
You see why this is different? | 0:25:16 | 0:25:19 | |
Look, this is not me going on the internet, | 0:25:19 | 0:25:22 | |
wanting to believe everything I read. This came from a doctor. | 0:25:22 | 0:25:25 | |
She sat me down and showed me this stuff. | 0:25:25 | 0:25:29 | |
-Will you promise me something? -Anything. | 0:25:29 | 0:25:32 | |
Don't tell Harry any of this. Not a word. | 0:25:32 | 0:25:35 | |
Of course not. Not until we're further down the line. | 0:25:35 | 0:25:37 | |
It's not going further down the line, Ben. | 0:25:37 | 0:25:40 | |
No more. Promise me. | 0:25:41 | 0:25:45 | |
Please, Sarah, just talk to the doctor. | 0:25:45 | 0:25:47 | |
Here. | 0:25:50 | 0:25:51 | |
MOBILE RINGS | 0:25:53 | 0:25:56 | |
Our son is dying. We've known for months, now. | 0:25:57 | 0:26:01 | |
We have to accept it, for his sake. | 0:26:01 | 0:26:04 | |
I will not waste any more of his precious time on dreams. | 0:26:05 | 0:26:09 | |
From now on, our focus is on making his last days as comfortable | 0:26:11 | 0:26:15 | |
and as happy as can be. | 0:26:15 | 0:26:17 | |
That's it. | 0:26:17 | 0:26:19 | |
I don't need to be appraised to express my opinion, | 0:26:32 | 0:26:34 | |
-thank you very kindly. -That is abundantly clear, Al. | 0:26:34 | 0:26:37 | |
No disrespect, but I don't tell you how you could do your job better. | 0:26:37 | 0:26:40 | |
So naive. | 0:26:40 | 0:26:41 | |
You have no idea what The Man is capable of. | 0:26:41 | 0:26:44 | |
I'm not making any exceptions, Al. You're in after Niamh. | 0:26:44 | 0:26:48 | |
I know there's something I want, I just don't know what it is. | 0:26:48 | 0:26:51 | |
OK, so, lots to think about. | 0:26:51 | 0:26:55 |