Rhieni-sengl O'r Galon

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-The Welsh family is changing.

-Within the past half a century...

-..the traditional model

-of Mam, Dad and 2.4 children...

-..has all but disappeared.

-It has been replaced by an

-altogether more contemporary unit.

-One that's more complex

-and colourful than before.

-These are some of

-the modern Welsh family's stories.

-There are over 97,000

-single parents in Wales.

-Why do you have to come so close,

-you wuss?

-Almost twice as many

-as 15 years ago.

-There were fewer years ago...

-..but a lot of people

-live like this.

-See you later, OK?

-I've been on a boat with a roof.

-All children would prefer

-their parents to live together.

-It's not meant to be every time.

-In Llanberis,

-Doris lives with her son, Connor.

-What are you doing outside my house?

-Are you stalking me?

-Oh, my God.

-I would say

-that I'm the main guardian...

-..but I have to respect

-Connor's father too.

-Connor goes to his father's house

-every Tuesday and Wednesday...

-..and every other weekend.

-We're going to Connor's

-father's house to pick up Connor...

-..for a kick about before work.

-We'll see how Connor is.

-If I know Connor, he'll be sat

-on his backside watching television.

-Hi, babes.

-It's great. He can come here

-to see Connor, I can go over there.

-Are we going for a kick about?

-Fetch your boots.

-There's no point waiting for him

-to answer the door.

-He doesn't hear it half the time...

-..the chav music's on.

-Mam can show you how to play.

-I've been a single parent

-for seven or eight years.

-That's how I was raised.

-I came from a family...

-..where Man raised

-my brother and myself.

-OK, there are times

-when things are difficult...

-..as it is for everyone else.

-I could have either gone to meltdown

-and said, "I can't do this"...

-..or carry on and say, "Right, I'm

-the adult here, let's go for it."

-So far so good.

-Mam's not rubbish. Who taught him?

-Dad!

-Dad!

-

-Dad!

-Almost 60% of single parents work...

-..in addition to raising

-their children.

-Doris is one of them.

-Shower and work.

-Round 2.

-Mam's got to go now.

-I'll phone you later. I don't want

-you on this all day, OK?

-OK?

-Off to work.

-It's lovely, isn't it?

-Doris has chosen to work part time

-in a cafe around the corner...

-..to stay close to Connor.

-Because we're so busy sometimes...

-..Connor's left to get on

-with his own devices.

-He's happy.

-Dad's gone to work.

-Mam's gone to work.

-I have to stay here.

-I spent a lot of time on my own

-when I was young.

-I think it helps make you

-a stronger person.

-I hope, in the long run.

-Taid asked me if I wanted to visit

-the Royal Welsh in Builth Wells.

-I don't want to watch

-a cow or a sheep winning a medal!

-I don't want to watch

-things like that.

-It's nothing new for him.

-I know sometimes

-he'll be frustrated.

-Life doesn't work that way.

-What we have to do in life

-is be grateful for what we have...

-..and not...

-..want more and more and more.

-Years ago, when parents separated...

-..children would normally live

-with their mother.

-Coco Pops

-or do you want a variety pack?

-Coco Pops.

-Today, more and more parents

-share the responsibility equally.

-With some Jaffa Cakes.

-With Jaffa Cakes?

-Not this time of morning.

-Three years ago, when Owain Llyr

-and his wife separated...

-..they had to agree

-on Morgan's upbringing.

-What are we going to do today?

-Go to Wylfa.

-Go to Wylfa.

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-Go to Wylfa?

-I didn't want Morgan to feel

-that I'd turn my back on him.

-I didn't want him to have

-any feelings of rejection.

-Tea or coffee?

-Tea, in a small cup.

-Small cup? I'll get it,

-you finish your breakfast.

-I was worried about the unknown.

-What would happen

-if his mother moved away?

-How many sugars do you want?

-Two? It's a small cup.

-You don't need two in a small cup.

-Yes. That's how you make it.

-You feel you don't have

-the complete control you once had.

-Not too much, or you'll lose

-your teeth like Taid Bala.

-We share Morgan.

-He lives with me half the time

-and then he lives with his mother.

-I don't see it as him living

-with his mother and coming to me.

-Morgan likes his cup of tea.

-Enough, enough, enough.

-If you have children one day,

-they'll call me Taid!

-If you had children, I'd be Taid.

-No, you'd be Dad.

-No.

-If I have children...

-You've confused me.

-Pink socks. That's a girl's colour!

-Like Doris, Owain has a job.

-He also runs his own company.

-He often works on the weekend.

-Bryn Fon, Ceidwad Y Goleudy,

-on Capital Cymru...

-..North Wales'

-best chart music show.

-Owain Llyr keeping you company.

-I like it when he comes with me

-and he likes it too...

-..but my show is 2-7pm.

-It's a long time

-to keep the little boy entertained.

-I bring an iPad in for him

-and we have a picnic sometimes.

-I place a blanket

-on the studio floor.

-He sits there while I fetch

-some sandwiches and crisps.

-He loves that.

-I'm going to phone Morgan to see

-if he's listening to me today.

-If he's not, I'll give him a row.

-Hiya, Dad.

-Hiya, Dad.

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-Hiya, Mogs. OK?

-What are you doing?

-Trying to chase a fly.

-Trying to catch a fly?

-Really?

-Is it moving too quickly for you?

-Yes, and it's flying

-too high for me.

-Is it?

-Are you listening to Dad

-on the radio today?

-Mmmm...

-No.

-Why not?

-Do you want Dad to say hello

-to you on the radio?

-Yes.

-What do you want me to say

-on the radio?

-I love you, Morgan. Say that, OK?

-OK.

-Dad?

-Yes?

-Yes?

-

-Love you.

-Love you.

-Katie Perry with Birthday.

-It's almost 3.45pm,

-you're listening to Capital FM.

-I've just been speaking to my son,

-Morgan. He's catching flies.

-I'm not sure

-why he's trying to catch flies.

-He wants me to say hello to him.

-Love you, Morgan!

-I hope Morgan's OK.

-83958 on the text...

-..on Capital FM.

-It's a comfort

-knowing that he's listening.

-I feel closer to him somehow

-because I know he's listening.

-Owain and Morgan have had to adapt

-to the new arrangement.

-"Who am I with today?"

-"You're with me today."

-"Who am I with tomorrow?"

-"You're with me tomorrow."

-"Who am I with the next day?"

-"Mam."

-When he's with me, he misses Mam...

-..and vice versa.

-He misses me

-when he's with his mother.

-I wonder if he's caught the fly?

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-As a single father,

-Owain is fortunate...

-..to have his family's help

-to look after Morgan.

-Go and see if Taid's arrived.

-Yes!

-Taidi!

-Dad's arrived.

-He calls over once a week

-to join in with whatever we do.

-Do you want a cuppa?

-Yes. Are you making Taid a cuppa?

-Go and make Taid a cuppa.

-I've made one already.

-This makes it taste even better.

-Taid's been away.

-He's brought a present

-back with him, for Morgan.

-Nothing noisy, I hope.

-Look!

-Pirates.

-Pirates.

-Have you said thank you?

-Have you said thank you?

-

-Thanks, Taid.

-There's a present for Dad too.

-Today is a rare opportunity

-for the boys to spend time together.

-I've worked every weekend

-for 10-15 years.

-During the week,

-I can take a few days off.

-I spend time with Morgan.

-If we want to go out to eat

-in somewhere nice...

-..we can do so.

-We don't worry about money -

-we just go.

-The price you pay

-to secure a better lifestyle...

-..is the sacrifice you make

-at the weekend.

-Today, a trip to the Gypsy Wood park

-in Bontnewydd is planned.

-Where are you taking us?

-To Lanzarote.

-I think it's important

-to set aside time for your children.

-Mam and Dad always had time for us.

-They supported everything we did.

-They took us to see

-different things.

-When Mam passed away...

-..I realised that the world

-isn't a perfect place...

-..where the children come first.

-Losing his mother to cancer...

-..was a devastating blow

-for Owain and his family.

-When something like that happens,

-it changes everything.

-When I separated from my wife,

-I was lost for a while.

-I didn't know what to do next.

-I don't have a master plan

-in place anymore.

-I'll just see how it goes.

-It's important just to be happy

-and enjoy life.

-Can I have one penny?

-I wish we could have money

-without having to work.

-Good, eh?

-We can have money now

-without having to work.

-High five.

-Let's go that way.

-What's that?

-A spider.

-A spider.

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-Did Taid buy that for you?

-Did he? Did you say thank you?

-Yes.

-Any child would prefer

-their parents living together.

-Where was this?

-When you lived with my mother.

-Do you miss Dad

-when you go back to Mam?

-Yes.

-Dad phones you, doesn't he?

-And when I go

-to Nan and Granddad's house.

-I phone you and I say,

-"Morgan, how are you today?"

-What do you say sometimes?

-"I'm off now, Dad. I'm busy."

-I do miss you when you're not here.

-Don't I?

-Sometimes he says, "It'd be nice

-if you lived with Mam."

-You know, but...

-..there we are then,

-it's not meant to be.

-We live in Llanberis.

-Everyone chips in.

-Connor goes out to play for the day.

-If you don't see him all day,

-you know he's fine.

-His father and grandfather

-live over there.

-There are aunties and uncles

-everywhere.

-I'm a born and bred Llanberian.

-Yeah.

-I've been harassing the village

-for 30 years!

-I love this village so much.

-Right, are you ready?

-We're playing goalie and strikers.

-Every week, Doris coaches

-a local football team...

-..of children under seven years old.

-Connor's father

-started coaching the team.

-Every now and then, he couldn't

-do it and I'm up for anything.

-I thought I'll give it a go.

-It just went from there, really.

-Two.

-Being with the team is a natural

-extension of Doris' role...

-..as a single mother.

-We've become a little family.

-We all just join in together.

-We just get on with it, you know.

-They are our little family.

-One.

-One important member is missing

-from this family.

-Connor, Doris' son, is 11 years old.

-He now plays

-for another football team.

-He's part of Caernarfon's

-U-11 academy.

-Over the past two or three years...

-..I haven't been able to watch

-Connor playing football that often.

-That's disappointed me.

-I'm going to surprise him

-and turn up to watch him.

-"Connor,

-run down the line and score!"

-Will it be a surprise

-or an embarrassment?

-Come on, silly billy.

-Come on, please, or we'll be late.

-Today, Morgan and Owain

-have been invited to a party.

-Are you excited

-about seeing Enfys and Daniel?

-Is Enfys' present safe?

-Is Enfys' present safe?

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-It's here.

-Mogs has no interest in you today.

-After the party, Owain will return

-Morgan to his mother's care.

-It's a familiar pattern

-which can be difficult sometimes.

-I won't see him for a few days.

-It's a little sad when he goes back.

-I go back to the house

-and it's silent.

-That's rather sad for me.

-The world is an incredible place

-through the eyes of a child.

-I miss...

-..his funny comments.

-Try and catch this then.

-That feeling that someone's

-relying on you.

-His things are still around.

-You look at them sometimes

-and I do feel lonely when he's gone.

-Owain finds solace in watching

-videos of Morgan... until next time.

-Dad, can you push me?

-Have you broken down?

-Yes.

-It's nice looking back

-and noticing how much he's grown.

-When I was younger...

-..I would look forward to going out.

-These days, I just want

-to spend more time with Morgan...

-..and be with Morgan.

-No-one wants their children to share

-their time between Mam and Dad...

-..but it's an all too familiar

-situation these days.

-It's not the ideal situation for me,

-to be honest.

-Hiya. Good morning, everyone.

-Today, Doris' football team

-doesn't have a match.

-She's off to watch Connor playing.

-Come on, Connor.

-You're weird.

-I know! The best way to be.

-Turn and face.

-Come on, Connor, come on.

-Despite the rain,

-Connor is on top form.

-Unlucky, boy, unlucky.

-He's playing well.

-The opposition scores first but

-that doesn't dampen Doris' spirits.

-I'm really happy

-that I'm here to see him.

-I love it.

-Rain, wind, freezing.

-The price of love for your baby boy.

-Finally, a chance to equalize.

-Yes! Lovely.

-Well done, boys.

-Before the final whistle, one last

-effort from Connor to win the game.

-Don't worry, keep going.

-FINAL WHISTLE

-Did you enjoy it?

-Yes.

-That's what matters.

-You're still unbeaten.

-I should have scored.

-Looking to the future, Doris' wish

-for Connor and herself is simple.

-As long as he's happy...

-..and he receives plenty of love

-from those around him...

-..that's enough for me.

-It's a dream that tens of thousands

-of single parents in Wales share.

-Our hopes for the future?

-We still have fun,

-we can enjoy each other's company.

-Live happily.

-It sounds simple

-but that's what everyone wants.

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